My boyfriend of confessed he has herpes
I am 50. He is 61. After a painful divorce, I thought this sweet, kind, caring man was “the one.” That is until genital herpes came up in convo Wednesday night, and he corrected me twice. My Spidey senses started tingling, so I said, Bill (not his real name) why do you know so much about herpes? That’s when he broke down and confessed. I feel violated and disgusted and disappointed.
Yes, I have a doc appt on Monday morning at 8 am. Yes, we broke up yesterday - this after he confessed to have taken preventative medicine at the beginning of our relationship but stopped because it made his tummy hurt. No, he did not consult his doctor. No, we didn’t wear condoms, but it wouldn’t matter anyway. His herpes outbreak is always along his upper pubic area.
My last STD panel was two years ago, and everything was negative. Unfortunately, if I’m positive, I won’t know who gave it to me (likely him though as he’s my longest relationship in 4-1/2 years). My advice to everyone here? Trust no one. Test yourself before every new sexual partner and require for your new partner as well. If they balk, it’s either because they don’t actually care about you and/or they’re positive for something and they know it.
EDIT TO ADD: My apologies. I deleted relevant info from the title when I was trying to post. He’s been my boyfriend for SIX MONTHS. He only told me because I directly asked him how he knows so much about herpes. He hesitated & then confessed.