AITAH for allowing my kiddo to prepare himself a warm meal?
I was out with a friend for dinner tonight, and when I got home, my husband and our son (10) obviously had gotten into a fight, everyone fretting in different rooms.
My son welcomed me home - my husband didn't. My son helped with the groceries I bought, my husband didn't. While he did, I asked him what had happened and he told me my husband had offered to order food or go out for dinner, too, but ridiculously they couldn't agree on the amount of what to order.
My son wished for chicken wings, but claimed a regular 6 pieces portion wasn't enough, he'd like more. Instead of agreeing on something else, they got into a fight over the amount of wings, so that my husband ultimately decided to not order at all but prepare something small to eat. My son acted out and tried to stop him by putting the things back to the fridge, which is where my husband called it quits and retreated to the homeoffice with a sandwich for himself but left Jr. on himself.
Now, I didn't know he - my husband - had decided to leave the kitchen cold for good, so when I got home and my son asked me to prepare him something, I told him I won't - he clearly didn't appreciate the effort before. But he could make himself something himself he was hungry (my huband and I both agree we won't leave him go to bed hungry as penaltry). He asked again, if I couldn't make him some scrabbled eggs or something and I declined again, but told him to go on and do it himself he's 10, not 3.
That's when my husband appeared in the picture, enraged I would 'make the kid something warm to eat'. I said I won't, I totally support declining the 'service' of preparing food if he doesn't appreciate it, but I'm a millennial, who knows better than to use warm meals or food in general as a treat or punishment. That shit's unhealthy. Also, to that point I didn't know the full expanse of how the evening went between them, as my husband didn't bother to fill me in (or to welcome) until he came out to berate me of how much I betrayed him.
I assured him that I wasn't intending to, but that again - I don't think food should be used as penalty or treat, and that I'm sorry it made him feel like I'm not on his side, but he's pretty mad now. AITAH?
Short: I allowed my son to prepare himself some scrabbled eggs for dinner after he got into a argument with my husband over dinner. AITAH?
edit: as it didn't come across: My husband didn't want him to go hungry, just without a warm meal, our son can always treat himself with a sandwich, he knows how to put stuff on bread. It is simply about the warm meal.