u/EvilKungFuWizard

My sister-in-law is a narcissist who uses fake disorders and illnesses to manipulate people and get attention. I swear, everytime we visit and plan an activity such as a hike, bbq, camping, etc, she will not only refuse to come along, she'll call or email that morning to tell us that her doctor called her at 5:00 am telling her that some results came in and she may have cancer. She then expects us to drop our plans to go and be there with her.  We know her trick and tell her "Oh no! Ok, when we come back from our activity, we'll go visit you."  Guess what? Cancer all of a sudden disappears the next day and she doesn't mention it again. If we ask her who her doctor is to speak to them to know more about how to help and support her, she'll act dodgy and be all "Well, he's very busy right now and can't talk."

Technically, she has the magical ability to make her cancer disappear the next day, which is a medical miracle!

So far she's had "cancer" like 4 times. She also fakes autism, allergies, immune system diseases, injuries, covid, and a bunch of other shit.

The worst part of this? She's also putting her 16 year old son through the whole fake illness and disorder thing. She claims that he has asthma, autism, ADHD, depression, etc, and tries to always keep him close to her "for his own health". Munchausen By Proxy basically. The kid is healthy and likes doing outdoor stuff, and she's depriving him of enjoying activities outside or with us because "he's always sick and she needs to monitor his health". It's her way of controlling him. They live in Canada and we live in The Netherlands, and my wife and I have offered to have him spend a summer with us here, but she refuses saying that he's too sick to travel far. I train in Kung Fu and am working towards getting my certification to teach it, and do archery as well. I always wanted to take him under my wing and teach him martial arts and archery (which he is very interested in). She refuses, saying that I'll be "teaching him violence" and how he "suffers from traumas" and is a very sensitive soul who may experience further trauma if I teach him those things.

The cherry on top of this is that her husband (kid's stepfather) left her and moved out two weeks ago. He couldn't handle her shit anymore. She then sent a mass email to all the relatives - aunts, cousins, etc - saying that her husband left because "he suffers from schizophrenia", has "bipolar disorder", and even claims that his mental health problems occurred after "he suffered a stroke" (which no one knew about until now). So basically anyone who disagrees with her has some sort of psychological disorder.

A few years ago, I finally lost it and called her out on her bullshit, and told her what the rest of the family was dying to tell her for the longest time - that she was faking her disorders and the only health problem she has is constipation because she's full of shit. Guess what happened? She mass emailed everyone saying that I was a "violent psychopath" and how "she feared for her life". Luckily, all the relatives know me well and know she's full of shit, so they all quietly told me how they're glad someone finally called her out.

Anyways, I'm done venting.