Advice for a gay single dad?
Hello! I'm a single father with a young daughter who lives with me full-time.
My daughter hasn't been doing well in full-time daycare, so I've done a lot of research and decided that I'm ready to move forward with looking for an au pair. I still plan to keep my daughter in a different daycare/preschool two days a week, so the au pair would primarily be responsible for childcare for 8 hours on MWF and possibly picking up from daycare on T/Th afternoon (I'm flexible on that part).
I work from home, but would be closed in my home office with headphones on the whole time, not really "present" to interfere with the au pair's work but close enough to hear them shout for me if they need me.
One of my anxieties about the searching/matching process is how to assess potential au pairs' attitudes about LGBTQ parents, especially gay dads. I don't bring my dates back to my child's home (and really don't have much time to date anyway), so it wouldn't be "in their face," but it definitely isn't something that they could possibly be oblivious to... and it's also important to me that anyone caring for my daughter is supportive of the LGBTQ community and wouldn't make any homophobic or transphobic remarks that could confuse my daughter.
Those of you who've done this before, from either side... How would you approach this when matching with an au pair? Do I put my sexuality in my profile? (That seems like a weird thing to do, right?) They'll certainly see that I'm a single dad, and I imagine that will screen out quite a few who wouldn't be comfortable with a household that doesn't include a woman. If not in my profile, how would you bring it up during interviews?