My [27F] GF of 7+ years chose an Italian guy she met for a week over me [28M] after I moved to another country to be with her and propose.
(This happened in October 2023, the OG Post is in my profile.)
Guys, I don't even know where to start, I'm feeling broken and I don't think I'll ever be able to trust again...
Alright, about a year and a half ago, my GF (now ex) moved to a country in the Caribbean to work in the company her parents set up when they retired, she was living a miserable life in her 9-5 because she wasn't feeling that she was closer to her dreams, I couldn't come with her at first because I was in my last year of college and then I had to do my thesis. So I told her that she should go and later I would catch up to her. About 6 months in her new reality, she asked me what did I think about open relationships, I consider myself an open minded guy, so I told her that it's an experience that our relationship could withstand, but mainly because I took her vCard and didn't wanted her to miss out on life. We even made a contract stating what would be acceptable and what wouldn't. So basically among other things, the two most important things were
Use protection.
Do not fall In love
She asked me to open our relationship because I am a guy who receives love in the form of touch, and she said that it was her way of giving the love I need. Later I found out that the actual reason was that she had already been with a Czech guy and she was feeling guilty about it. Let's call him R. He's going to be important later in the story.
A few months ago she went to our country to do some paperwork, this was the first time in more than a year that we were seeing each other, I was really happy at that time. I was about to get out of college and move with her to the Caribbean, it was just a couple of months away, this is when we decided that we should close our open relationship, it didn't make sense to leave it open anymore.
So finally the day came, I got my degree and 2 days later I was leaving all my life, family and friends behind to be with my GF, my plan was to reignite our flame and then propose to her in her b-day, I still have the ring with me... Anyway, that is until I found out that she had been in a romantic relationship with an Italian guy that she met for a week when this guy was on vacation about 8 months ago. But I found out because I saw a notification from R pop up on her screen when she was showing me something, he said "you are full of surprises 😍" she quickly dismissed it, but later I went into R chat with her and saw that they were flirting a sending nudes to each other, all while I was there, so she kept contact with him and he was coming over for her bday. He was telling her all the things that he was going to do with her when he arrives... One message that she sent made my stomach hurt... "Have you ever felt that you are with the wrong person and that the one you love is thousands of miles away?"
It hasn't even been 3 weeks since I moved over.
Man... I have to stop right now because it's really hurting me, I'll come back and finish this later, I'm leaving a lot of details behind, you can ask me anything in the meantime.
Guys... I'm broken.