Do avoidents think about you at all after the discard?
I have seen a lot of these posts about people coming out of relationships but not many about my situation. So i am posting this to try and get some closure, insight, and possibly help anyone going through the same thing.
Long story short, a year and a half ago, I (23F) started talking to this guy (24M) after we had both gotten out of some pretty serious relationships where we were both cheated on. We were both eachothers firsts "situationship" i guess you could say after they ended. It lasted around 3 months until it ended due to some problems with exes. We have been pretty on and off talking since, with each time ending for different reasons.
Most recently, he texted me around December saying he wanted to try and make things work and we went out together. We stopped talking around a month later, and then reconnected in mid march. We both were on spring break at the same place, and spent most of the time there together and it was amazing. After the trip he was very persistent on hanging out and made a huge effort to see me. Much different than usual energy because a major problem with us was that i felt like a texting buddy. We even hungout right after. He told me how he actually wanted to get to know me and really liked me and we had so many deep talks about what we wanted to be different from our last relationships.
Well, not long after that, we had plans to hangout which ended up falling through. I made a joke about how i knew it was gonna happen and i got a lengthy response days later about how he "obviously" likes me but feels like he isnt able to commit himself or like me fully so we agreed to just stop talking. I said i wanted it to be the last time since i keep getting hurt.
Im obviously hurt by it all still but im just wondering- do they ever regret just randomly discarding you? Im just so confused by it all. It really sucks how back and forth we were and it feels like he never gave me the chance to even get to know me or see me. Was any of it even real? Do they come back?
Sorry for being so long. Needed to get this off my chest. Advice would be greatly appreciated