My bf (30M) has told me that in the future when we have kids, he wants me (27F) to be the one who deal with them when there’s bad behavior. Is it even worth having kids with him?
I 27F never had kids yet, i want to have kids, it’s something me and my friends talk about. They already married and have kids. I have told my bf (30M) that I definitely want to have kids, and he said we would be great parents. He said that we can go on trips and do family activities. Although he has said somethings that make me feel comfortable, he did mention that when if they misbehave I should be the one who should deal with them, that it should be my job to know what to do. He laughs and says no you deal with them. Mind you as a female, I have searched what comes with pregnancy, I’ve seen that your physical body isn’t the same after, stress, hormone change, I’m not a mother yet, i have seen how difficult it is to deal with your children during stores, and public places. The other day I went to get groceries and I’ve been hearing loud tantrums, it worries me a little that my bf has the audacity to put all that stress to me. I feel like he now that he mentions he wants to have children, that he only wants to have kids to have the easiest job, and makes me feel like I have to work hard for him and for our future children. I’m rethinking if I should be having kids, I feel, in my perspective, that it should be a growing, healthy, by both parents, (I’ve been dating my bf for a year and a half ) I would like to know how motherhood is like for those who have already experienced this, And if it’s worth to have kids with him? I truly love this man