My sister n law sent my mom an insulting text and my brother backs her up
my sister in law sent my mom this long ass message basically saying she only respects her because she’s the mother of her husband but besides that she thinks our family is unstable and full of abusers. she said my dad is only able to pay rent because of her, that she hopes my other brother’s gf doesn’t get “stuck” with our family, and that she doesn’t want any of us talking to her anymore even though she still lives here. i asked my brother about it and he said he agrees with her and sees nothing wrong with what she said.
what annoys me is when she first moved in with us she would always talk about how abusive her own family was and how much she struggled mentally and with self harm. my family took her in and was there for her and now suddenly her family is too good for us and we’re apparently the toxic ones.
there’s been problems for awhile though. after she had her baby, my mom told her maybe she should turn the fan off while changing him because he could get cold and she got super offended and told my mom to mind her business and take care of her own son. but then she would turn around and parent my little brother by telling him to stop eating junk food, turning the tv off on him, making little comments, etc.
eventually nobody in the house was talking for months. things got normal again for awhile until recently i noticed if i didn’t say hi first she would literally ignore me completely. so i started ignoring her too and eventually we just stopped talking. around that same time i noticed my shampoos and stuff in the bathroom would run out super fast or be watery. i asked my brother about it and he said her stuff was messed with too and even though i genuinely never touched her things they still think i did.
another thing that made me mad was one day while i was at work she talked to my boyfriend and “warned” him about me because i’ve had toxic relationships before. she brought up stuff from literally years ago and they defended it by saying she just wanted him to know what he was getting into.
the thing is me and my siblings had a pretty normal childhood. we got grounded and spanked sometimes but nothing abusive or traumatic. now all of a sudden my brother is saying our parents never cared about him and that he resents them for how he was raised. my mom cried and said she feels like my sister in law is getting in his head and turning him against us, but he says these are his own feelings.
they recently tried talking things out and nothing really got solved besides agreeing everyone needed space. then today my mom got that message from her insulting basically our whole family and now everything feels even worse.
i know every story has two sides but honestly i feel like my family has been disrespected so badly and i don’t know if i’m blinded by anger or if this situation is actually as messed up as it feels.
tldr: my sister in law sent my mom a message calling our family unstable and abusive and saying she only respects her because she’s her husband’s mom. my brother agrees with her, which hurts even more because my family took her in when she was struggling with her own family. there’s been years of tension and now everything feels divided and disrespectful.