AITAH for being upset that my fiancé postponed our elopement to fund a cousins bachelor trip?
My fiancé and I have been together for over 10 years and have a 4 year old daughter together. We’ve been putting off our wedding for 2+ years due to the high costs. We finally agreed to just elope and combine it with a much needed vacation, since we haven’t been away together in over 3 years. Not even one night staycation somewhere. I am eager to finally get married and grow our family.
Recently, my fiancé decided to go on a bachelor trip for his cousins wedding. The total cost of this trip will easily exceed over $1,200. Because of this, our elopement & vacation are being put on a back burner yet again because we can’t afford it.
I've been visibly annoyed by it. From my perspective, if we don't have the funds to secure our own marriage and take a small couple's trip, we shouldn't be prioritizing a $1,200+ party weekend for someone else's wedding. He thinks I'm being unfair, but I feel like our milestone is being treated as a secondary priority.
Am I the asshole here?