Would I be wrong if I make my best friend maid of honour instead of any of my two sisters?
TLDR I (25F) recently got engaged to my fiancé (27M), who has been my brother’s best friend since high school. I had a crush on him as a teenager, but we only really got close years later in college. We fell in love naturally, and when he proposed, I happily said yes.
The issue started when my sisters asked who my maid of honor would be. I have two older sisters (35F and 30F), and while I love them deeply and appreciate everything they’ve done for me, I told them I planned to choose my high school best friend (25F) instead. She’s been my emotional support through some of the hardest moments of my life, and choosing her feels right to me.
Both of my sisters will still be bridesmaids, and I absolutely want them involved in my wedding.
For context, my sisters are extremely close and chose each other as maids of honor at their own weddings. I was a bridesmaid both times, and while I never complained, it did hurt being the only sister who was never chosen.
My brother thinks I should reconsider, especially for my oldest sister, because she was heavily parentified growing up and took care of me a lot. I do appreciate that, but our relationship is complicated. During arguments, she sometimes says she “wasted her life” taking care of me, which makes me feel guilty even though I was just a child.
My other sister says she personally doesn’t care about being maid of honor, but thinks I’m wrong for not choosing our oldest sister. Now my parents are involved, and both sisters have threatened not to attend the wedding unless I change my mind.
I genuinely love my sisters and want them beside me on my wedding day. I just don’t want my maid of honor choice to come from guilt or pressure instead of who I truly feel closest to in that role.
So, am I wrong?