Problem/Goal: I (20F) have been with my boyfriend (20M) for almost a year. Recently, while we were looking through his phone together, we came across a "dump" Twitter account he had.
He eventually admitted that he uses the account to watch porn and that he has been struggling with a porn addiction since he was in grade school. Most hurtful of all, he admitted he was active on that account for the first five months we were together.
Since finding this out, I’ve been in a really dark place. I can’t stop questioning my self-worth or wondering if I’m "not enough" for him. He constantly assures me that it’s a "him problem" and has nothing to do with me, but the intrusive thoughts won't go away.
I chose to forgive him because he promised he would change, and he tells me all the time that he is making progress. However, even with his reassurances, I still feel insecure and the trust feels broken. I love him, but I’m struggling to see a path forward where I don’t feel second-best to a screen.
Is this relationship still capable of working, or is it better to let go now before we get even deeper into the relationship? Has anyone successfully navigated a partner’s long-term addiction this early on?