There’s a couple things I want to talk about here. Rejection is unlikely with herpes and this virus does not change who you are, your value or your meaning of life if that makes sense. This is coming from a person with clinical hypochondria to the point where I wanted to kill myself off a cliff one day because I was so fucking upset by the fact that I had herpes but more so that I contracted a virus that in the rarest case scenario cause issues for me but it won’t and I’ll tell you why based on research.
Keep in mind that every medication has side effects and rare side effects but honestly the chances of medication affecting a healthy individual is almost impossible - not impossible but to the point where you do not need to worry for 1.
I disclosed twice within 2 weeks because I was seeing two guys at once lol but I didn’t have sex with either of them yet simply because I also don’t like to just have sex with anyone unless there’s a genuine connection- not into hook up culture. The first guy I was seeing, I told him and the next day he was still wanting to rip my clothes off and also became obsessed with me anyway that I had to break it off because I realized I liked the other guy more.
I finally grew some balls to tell the second guy cause I liked him so much more and I was so so so scared. He ended up just saying that he has had cold sores before so it’s fine he gets it. Again wanted to rip my clothes off again and put it in raw.
You are still desirable, you will be wanted and don’t just settle for anyone because herpes is not a fucking big deal. Yes always disclose because you want to be honest from the start with anyone. But no one cares honestly.
I also disclosed to a guy at the end of last year and he ate me out right after so :)