My (35F) husband (38M) spent $78k on a phone game. Need advice & opinions.
I have been married to my husband for 2 years together for 6.
A few months ago he came to me saying he had stress due to credit card debt from when he was unemployed. About 30k. He isn't a shopper and doesn't really have bills outside of our mortgage. I consoled him and told him I loved him, that we were a team, and we would figure it out together.
A few weeks later he told me he had listed me as a cosigner on a loan but, but didn't get approved because his credit score is so low.
Then last week I noticed he took $1250 from our joint savings. I asked him what it was for and he said it was to pay off our Home Depot card, and because we had agreed that he would stop paying into our joint savings because he was making significantly less than his past job.
Friday I logged on to his bank accounts with him to make a plan of how to attack his debt. When I logged on I found that he had $38k in debt, almost all from in game charges for a game called Whiteout Survival. Then I found out that he had already borrowed $40k from his mom and grandma to pay off debt, mostly from the same game.
It's just crazy because my husband outside of this has been amazing. He's my best friend. I never thought I would get married, because I didn't think I would ever feel like someone was my partner until I found him.
Now like my brain and my body don't understand how to rectify that the man in front of me is the one who did this.
He's seeking help, and attending gaming addicts anonymous.
I am going to take the house out of his name and he agreed.
I just don't know how to move forward.
Any advice?
Edit: I'm not necessarily asking for advice on if I should divorce him. I'm asking if there are other resources or things I should be looking into for me. I live in the house we bought together, and right now being around anything that remind me of our relationship either sets me into a rage or tear fest.
Shout out to the people who have DMed me sharing their experience and saying that with that amount he's likely sending money to other people.