We've been together a bit over eight months now. At the start, everything felt easy. We used to see each other more, talk more, and I actually felt like I was part of his life.
But lately things just feel ..different. He’s always been busy, and I get that. He has his family, his friends, he goes out a lot, watches football… like he has a full life. And honestly, that’s not the problem. The problem is that he somehow has time for all of that every day… just not for me.
I moved here not long ago (I'm living in his country, but didn't move for him - we met after I came here) so I don’t really have anyone. No family, barely any friends. Most of the time it’s just work and then back home. I try to go out sometimes, but it’s not the same. So of course I look forward to seeing him! It's very simple for me, I love him and wanna spend time with him
But now we can go like three days without seeing each other, and it kinda hurts that he's totally okay with it. It just makes me feel like I’m not really a priority.
Like last week… we saw each other Thursday evening after barely spending any time with each other the whole week. But then Friday he was busy, Saturday too. And by the time he came home Saturday night, I was already half asleep. And I just kept thinking… he could’ve come earlier. Even just for a bit. Or he could've at least called and said sorry babe, I know you had a long day at work, but I'll be coming late so you should get some rest and not wait for me
But no, he comes in, gives me a quick kiss, says “sleep well" and then goes off to eat and watch a game. And I’m just lying there like… okay. Cool. I guess..
And the worst part is when I try to talk about it, it somehow turns into me being “too needy" .. Like I’m asking for too much, when honestly all I want is to feel like I matter. Like he actually wants to spend time with me, not just see me when everything else is done. He always says I have a life and I can't spend my whole day with you, and I'm like..I'm not asking you to.. I literally just need to feel that he wants to be around me more, even though he can't.
This all just makes me wonder what's going on his head and what caused this change in him.. cause he was definitely making more time for me in the beginning.
How can we solve this? Am I really being too needy ? Because I'm starting to feel like it :(