So going to the movies is my (32M) one major form of relaxation. I usually go to at least one movie a week usually on the weekend. I tend to go with my dad but sometimes I will go solo and when the calendar aligns with my wife (30F).
We have a toddler so it’s rare her and I get the chance to go to the movies together. Her mom will occasionally watch our child for us so we can get some time together or if we go during the day if we both manage to have off while he’s at daycare.
She recently sent me a list of movies she wanted to watch with me (most likely at home a couple of months after the movie was released). While I don’t mind making exceptions for her and skip a movie now and then to see with her this list was most of the major new releases for the remainder of the year. Spider-Man, Avengers, Dune, etc. All of the movies that are built to be seen in theaters. I don’t mind rewatching these at home with her, but she strictly wants me to wait to watch it for the first time with her.
I told her we would have to see if we could line up more time for her mom to watch our child so we could go to the movies together to see the movies she wanted to see. She scoffed at this and asked why I couldn’t wait until they were out so we could watch them at home. She got upset before I could really explain how I felt these were mostly films I really wanted to enjoy in theaters due to being major spectacles.
She struggles to take time to herself even when I highly encourage it because all of her friends live far from us and she doesn’t enjoy doing things solo.