u/Expert_Worker5410

Hey everyone! I know it feels crazy to already be thinking about Christmas, but it will be here before we know it!

My husband has two kids with two different moms. We have a really good relationship with one of the moms and do quite a few celebrations together. She also has a daughter around the same age as my stepdaughter, and the two girls share my stepson. They absolutely love each other and say they’re best friends.

I’ve been thinking about whether it might make sense for the kids to spend part of Christmas together this year, especially since this will be my stepdaughter’s first Christmas morning with us. I think it could be really special for all three kids to have some time together.

One possibility would be using my in-laws’ vacation home since there’s plenty of space for everyone, including our dogs, and everyone could have their own space. But we haven’t talked to anyone about it yet. I’ve just brought the idea up with my husband, and he thinks it could be worth considering.

I also think it could take some of the pressure off everyone with coordinating schedules, driving back and forth, and making sure the kids each get time with their siblings.

Has anyone done something similar with blended families? How did it work out? I’d love to hear what worked, what didn’t, and whether you’d do it again. We also live in northern Idaho, so who knows how the roads will be and this also keeps everyone together and safe without worrying about travel.

I could really use some hope from anyone who's been through something similar.

Over the past year of trying to conceive, I've had 3 chemical pregnancies followed by an ectopic pregnancy. Two weeks ago I had a hysteroscopy. My doctor said the lining of my uterus was "fluffy" and showed signs of multiple microscopic polyps. The pathology came back benign, and all of my other testing has been normal. I also have a fibroid but it's not an issues right now.

I'm terrified to try again. My ectopic was incredibly scary, and looking back I feel like I wasn't fully informed of all of my treatment options. I chose methotrexate, but I honestly regret that decision and sometimes wish I had just had the affected tube removed. I'm still working through those feelings.

Has anyone had recurrent chemical pregnancies or an ectopic, had polyps (or abnormal uterine lining) removed, and then gone on to have a successful pregnancy? Could the polyps really have been the missing piece?

I know no one can promise a rainbow baby, but I'd love to hear your experiences if you've been in a similar situation. Right now I'm trying to find the courage to hope again.

I could really use some hope from anyone who's been through something similar.

Over the past year of trying to conceive, I've had 3 chemical pregnancies followed by an ectopic pregnancy. Two weeks ago I had a hysteroscopy. My doctor said the lining of my uterus was "fluffy" and showed signs of multiple microscopic polyps. The pathology came back benign, and all of my other testing has been normal.

I'm terrified to try again. My ectopic was incredibly scary, and looking back I feel like I wasn't fully informed of all of my treatment options. I chose methotrexate, but I honestly regret that decision and sometimes wish I had just had the affected tube removed. I'm still working through those feelings.

Has anyone had recurrent chemical pregnancies or an ectopic, had polyps (or abnormal uterine lining) removed, and then gone on to have a successful pregnancy? Could the polyps really have been the missing piece?

I know no one can promise a rainbow baby, but I'd love to hear your experiences if you've been in a similar situation. Right now I'm trying to find the courage to hope again.

I’ve had three chemical pregnancies since July 2025. This month, I finally had a positive test that seemed to stick, and my hCG levels were being monitored and rising appropriately, until it was discovered to be an ectopic pregnancy.

I’m now about to receive a second dose of methotrexate because the first one didn’t work and my levels aren’t dropping as quickly as my doctors want. I’m really anxious about trying again, especially knowing that the risk of another ectopic can be higher after having one. It also feels like my main options being presented are limited to medication or surgery, including possibly removing an entire fallopian tube.

On top of this, I have another surgery already scheduled to remove a uterine polyp that my OB thinks may be contributing to my recurrent losses, since it’s located in the middle of my uterus.

Emotionally, I feel very scared and discouraged. I know I need to wait 3 to 6 months before trying again, and I want to use that time to focus on improving my overall health and making lifestyle changes. My family already eats fairly healthy, but I’d like to shift more toward an anti inflammatory approach.

I’m also worried about the effects of methotrexate, since it depletes folate, and I’m unsure how to best support my body, especially my liver and kidneys, after going through such a strong medication. Thank you for any ideas, support or just anything.