r/recurrentmiscarriage

My pregnancy stopped growing at 7weeks 4 days last week.I was given the option to either wait for my body to recognise the miscarriage naturally and pass the tissue or take the pill.I have been waiting since past 1 week for my body to react but nothing so far.I am getting some cramps now and then in lower back and hip region but nothing else.no cramps or spotting.
If you have ever gone through this,how long did it take for the bleeding to start in your case?How long should I wait before going back to the EPU and asking for the pill?

Hello everyone, I have now become part of this slightly depressing (but wonderfully supportive) club and need some advice.

My partner has hypogonadism, so cannot produce testosterone on his own. After 12 months of stimulation, he got from absolutely no sperm to almost 2 Million/ml (yay!) and I got pregnant, but I had a missed miscarriage (baby died around 6 weeks, I finally took pills in week 11). Fast forward 6 months and I got pregnant again, sperm count up to 5 Million/ml. But I lost the baby at 8 weeks (stopped growing around 6 weeks too). His doctor checked for DNA Fragmentation, but it is very low (2%). I also took progesterone as a precaution with the second pregnancy.

My doctor says we should just keep trying, maybe with IUI. General blood tests for me (thyroid etc.) came back normal, but they did not do a full workup, so no test for APS or genetic testing (but maybe I should push harder?). I am not sure what to do, somehow it feels risky just trying again, especially since I will likely take around 6 months to get pregnant again (I am 34). I am thinking maybe with ICSI we have a better chance, because they can select the best sperm?

Any similar experiences? What would you do? Grateful for the support I already got from reading your stories ❤️

Hi all,

TW : Long Post

I’m 30F and have been TTC for the past 3 years. During this time, I’ve been pregnant 4 times — 2 chemical pregnancies, 1 blighted ovum, and most recently a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. All 4 pregnancies were conceived naturally.

I’ve also undergone 3 egg retrievals. In the first cycle, we froze 3 day-3 embryos. The next two retrievals unfortunately did not progress to day 5/6 blastocysts.

After October 2025, we decided to take a break from treatments and focused on improving my overall health through an Ayurvedic approach and lifestyle changes. I conceived naturally again in March 2026, but sadly that pregnancy also ended in miscarriage recently.

At this point, I feel completely devastated and emotionally exhausted. I keep questioning why I’m facing recurrent losses and I’m honestly scared to try IVF or even natural conception again. My AMH is low (around 1.1), while my husband’s DFI is normal.

Has anyone here been through something similar? What changes, treatments, or approaches helped you?

Could this be mainly due to poor egg quality? Should I continue trying with my own eggs, or start considering donor eggs at this stage?

I feel very lost right now and unsure about what my next step should be. Any guidance or shared experiences would mean a lot.

TW: successful (so far)

Hello my friends that have saved my sanity. I wanted to share an early milestone win for myself. After 4 back to back losses in 12 months, we did a 6 month break (last MC was an emergency sitchy where I lost a heavy amount of blood).

During that break we tested everything, which I will work on a list, but I would say probably 50 vials of

Blood has been taken from me.

We moved to IVF as I’m 39 and if you’ve read my posts, I tell a story of a great fertility doc who said, if we want more than 1 and with our age, it’s worth considering IVF just for the banking embryo factor.

So we did IVF with the kitchen sink protocol.

Today I celebrate 10 weeks (well 9+6). We had only ever made it to 8 weeks in prior losses. And so this is a massive milestone to pass.

I’m happy to answer everything, or I think my profile it open and you can search all the things I’ve written

Am I out of my PTSD, paranoia - LOL fuck no. Your girl here is swearing like a fire hydrant before every scan. But I wanted to celebrate this milestone 💙

Things I have learned

- read the book IS MY BODY BABY FRIENDLY by Alan beer

- don’t trust your regular OB (sorry) they are great but they deal more with babies and pregnancy. They aren’t verses well in RPL

- test yourself, don’t wait for someone or more to happen. Wher possible go and test as much as you can yourself.

- advocate and get mad. If someone got pneumonia 4x in a year the doctors would be going catch investigating. My babies are worth more than that. They deserve every extra request and if you don’t want to. You aren’t the right doctor for me.

EDIT: added more

TW: living child

TLDR: seeking advice about how to understand when autoimmune disease is under control before trying

I have been going to doctors with autoimmune symptoms since 2011. Mostly they all dismissed me as being too stressed. Some even suggested I was a hypochondriac or depressed. I listened to them and worked on my mental health and stress management. Then in 2023 we began to try for our second child. We have lost so many pregnancies. Two were 9-10 week losses and confirmed to be genetic (trisomy 22 and partial molar) and the other five were 5-6 week losses, assumed to be implantation issues. They all happened in about 14 months and the only thing they could find was a high positive ANA. I was sent to a rheumatologist who wouldn't treat me because I wasn't a serious enough case and because at the time all antibodies came back negative. I convinced my OB to prescribe plaquenil and heparin. We started to try again for a couple of months this spring and so I found another rheumatologist and got more testing done. Turns out I have a strong symptomatic case for sjogrens and I have antibodies for lupus and rheumatoid arthritis and borderline positive APS. editing to add: i haven't been officially diagnosed with any of these as you need two positive tests I over 12 weeks, but the results along with my hustory were clinically significant.

I've read we should wait until the "disease is under control", but I'm 38 and time isn't really on my side. I ovulate pretty much like clockwork, but the genetic issues we've experienced make me think my ovaries may be affected by the disease. I'm honestly scared of losing another one or going longer.

Does anyone have experience with this? I've heard that autoimmune diseases can kind of start like roulette until they settle on one disease that ends up dominating, but I can't understand how to navigate this.

Any advice on how to do this safely would be appreciated.

HI again,

my MMC was found on Monday at my first ultrasound. I should have measured 10 weeks, but measured 7 no HB. They had me meet with someone and go over options. I opted for a D&C. They said they would schedule this week. They called and made an appointment, but it felt like it is another consultation to go over options. I really want to do the D&C to have the tissue tested. It is feeling like it wont happen until next week. I'm scared it will pass on its own over the weekend and I wont be able to get it tested. How can I push for the procedure before the end of the week? Is it normal to wait this long? I feel like I am being dismissed and I want to advocate for myself. I just don't know what to say or who to talk to. This feeling really sucks.

Hello everyone,
I’m a 34 year old female.

I’ve had 2 early loses before then had my son two years ago.

We started trying again and after a few months got our positive last week.
I was so full of hope only for it to be crushed today.

How do I keep going from here.
I thought I was safe, after having a living birth but clearly I’m not.
I’m devastated.

I have had 2 years since my last miscarriage. I'm wanting to try again since I'm 36 and I can't stop thinking I didn't try everything I could have tried. I am going to see an OBGYN and want to discuss MTHFR, clotting issues, progesterone supplements, etc but I don't know how to have these conversations. Every time I've gone to doctors to discuss things since my 6 losses they just act like I'm annoying them and that it is hopeless. I did a DNA at home test and it told me I have MTHFR and I have a gene called PAI-1 (blood clotting issues) that can cause miscarriage. I also always thought I ovulated too late in my cycle and it made me think I could have luteal phase defect and could use progesterone or something. The doctors where I live are extremely scarce and don't take people seriously but I can't do it on my own. Do you have any suggestions? How should the conversation go? Thank you!

Hello girls!! I’ve had 3 miscarriages one last May at 6 weeks , another in October at 5 weeks & in January at 4 weeks. I haven’t tried conceiving again since the last one, all my blood work came back normal and am going to schedule an HSG soon.. i do have Hypothyroidism/hashimotos and each time my thyroids levels have been normal & I am on levothyroxine. I would really like to try again soon but not before preparing my body to avoid another miscarriage. Anybody on here that has had recurrent miscarriages do anything differently that allowed them to finally have a successful pregnancy? Would love any advice & tips. Thank you in advance!🫶🏽

I’m currently around 6 weeks pregnant (last period April 6). I’ve had brown spotting since May 8, which is still continuing. I also had a transvaginal ultrasound today and the doctor said they could not see a gestational sac in the uterus.

I have a history of 4 previous miscarriages, so I’m very anxious right now. I also have mild cramps, but they don’t feel one-sided. I don’t have shoulder pain or severe pain.

The doctor told me to go to the ER if I notice heavy bleeding, shoulder pain, or one-sided severe abdominal pain, mentioning ectopic warning signs. That has made me even more worried.

I had my hCG blood test done today and am waiting for the results.

My question is — is it possible this could still be ectopic even if nothing was seen on the scan? What could be the possible next steps in evaluation or management in this situation?

Hi all. I was thinking how when I started TTC I began by joining a subreddit about pregnancy test lines. Then I joined a pregnancy one. Then a miscarriage one. And now here I am in a recurrent loss group.

I’m 32 and my partner is 40. We’ve had 3 losses. A 5.5 week in December. A chemical in January. And a 13 week MMC in late April (baby stopped growing at 10 weeks). This last pregnancy had every positive sign (strong test lines, strong heart beat, growing each week). I tried to conceive back to back and was successful each time. Getting pregnant doesn’t seem to be an issue. I feel like I’ve fallen into a rabbit hole researching every possible cause, and honestly I’m terrified of what testing might find. My GP has unfortunately been off this month so I haven’t been able to ask questions to a close professional or get a referral.
I keep spiraling about things like karyotyping, egg and sperm quality, clotting issues, progesterone issues, autoimmune problems, uterine abnormalities, and whether I’ll be able to carry to term. Other than these recurrent losses, we are both generally healthy individuals with healthy lifestyles.
I think what scares me most is that every test feels like it could reveal something devastating or permanent. My brain keeps jumping to worst-case scenarios like my partner and I are incompatible or our only option will be IVF which we cannot afford.
At the same time, I know recurrent loss can sometimes still end in successful pregnancies, even after multiple miscarriages. I’m trying to hold onto that, but it’s hard.
I guess I’m not really sure what I want out of this post. Maybe success stories? Or other people in the same situation? What sort of testing have you had done? Maybe I’m just looking to vent. My sadness has recently turned in frustration.
Spiral over. Thanks for reading <3

Just got told my current pregnancy at 6 weeks is a loss. I would do anything to hold a healthy baby of my own and I’m scared I never will

TW: Pregnancy

This is my first month using progesterone pessaries and I’ve really not asked any questions about it.

I’m still only 4 weeks, so very nervous.

My thoughts at the moment are would progesterone delay a non-viable pregnancy if it was eg. genetic abnormalities?

I’m 41, so obviously, should expect egg quality to be not as good as it used to be. I know I need progesterone because I’m perimenopausal as was on HRT until I tested positive but I just keep thinking there won’t be anything there at the 7wk scan.

What should my expectations be?

Husband and I experienced 3 miscarriages in a 1 year span, all after seeing healthy growth and a heart beat. I was 31 and 32 and he was 29 and 30. We had every blood test, imagining, etc we could have and got no answer. We desperately turned to IVF in order to do PGTA testing. I did a retrieval and got only one euploid embryo. I did a fully medicated transfer and it failed. I did another retrieval the following month and we got several more embryos which were all sent for PGTA testing except for. We took a leap of faith and I did a fresh transfer after my 2nd retrieval, and had our 4th miscarriage (this was ruled to be trisomy 22). At that point I vowed to use only our PGTA tested embryos - we ended up with 4 total after the 2nd retrieval (so grateful for them).

To our surprise, while waiting for my body to heal and going through the testing to make sure my uterus was ready for another transfer, we conceived again naturally only weeks after my D&C, before I even got a period. I was tracking with OPKS to specifically avoid ovulation and never got a spike. We also only had sec once. I’m now 26W today with a so far, healthy baby girl. I was on a “kitchen sink” medication protocol that I think was helpful in allowing me to carry this pregnancy and I plan to take the same regimen again for any future pregnancies I would be blessed to have.

I feel so incredibly blessed and grateful and I hope my question does not come off as ungrateful or gloating. I know how difficult it is physically and emotionally to experience infertility, pregnancy loss, and failed transfers. My heart goes out to everyone in this position.

My question has to do with future family planning. I am now 33 and my baby is due in August. The embryos we have frozen were made when I was 32. When it comes to trying for our next baby, I would like to do so relatively sooner than later, perhaps 6-8 months after giving birth (if all goes ok). I know this isn’t the most ideal option and I’m not set on this plan. My question is - for our next child - do we try again naturally because my eggs would still be relatively “young” and save the frozen 32 year old eggs for when I am older? (We would like to have a big family…no set number but want to keep going until we decide we have concluded our family building).

Hope this makes sense and I appreciate any thoughts, advice, or wisdom for anyone who may have been in my shoes.

TLDR: When we try for our 2nd child - do we try again naturally or use one of our PGTA tested embryos that we had made out of desperation after experiencing recurrent loss, but then ended up having success with a natural pregnancy? Current age is a big variable (33 or 34 at time of next pregnancy - PGTA tested embryos were made at 32).

Hello,

I'm (37f) new here but I think I need support. I have thyroid issues and PCOS. I have 3 previous losses and we have recently decided to try again. I worked with an endo and thought I got my thyroid right and we conceived on our first try. Yesterday I went to my 10 week ultrasound and discovered that the baby measured 7 weeks with no heartbeat. I'm really disappointed. I have to schedule a D&C. Never done that before, I am scared but I hope it wont be as painful. I know it is not my fault, but I am really struggling with blaming myself. What happened 3 weeks ago? Did I eat something wrong? Did I do the wrong exercise? I feel like I prepared myself for this as much as I could. I'm just sad. I have therapy scheduled tonight, so I know I have support. I guess I am just looking for people who understand. I have no live children, what should I do next.? I'm not ready to give up yet, but I know it could never happen for us.

Hi! I’ve asked my doctor if I can take low dose aspirin in the hope of reducing MC chance next time. He said no as it isn’t in the guidelines as there’s no large, good quality research studies showing it actually helps.

I feel like just taking it anyway because surely it can’t hurt? Would you take it from before you get pregnant again or from a positive test?

I’ve miscarriaged one singleton at 6 weeks and one MMC with twins at 10 weeks. Tests coming back normal.

Thanks

Hi all! Need some advice on my recent ultrasound (I’m not confident in my LMP and don’t know when I ovulated) - for background I’ve had 2x miscarriages in the past and just need some reassurance or truths with these facts. Doctors are just not being helpful to them everything is “normal” but I can’t trust it. My concern is the sac measuring behind and all posts I’ve seen relating to this have resulted in a loss of pregnancy.

Ultrasound report states: Ultrasound shows a single live pregnancy located inside the uterus.

- Gestational sac (MSD) measured 13.0mm, corresponding to approximately 6 weeks and 1 day
- Crown-rump length (CRL) measured 12.3mm, corresponding to approximately 7 weeks and 3 days
- One foetal pole and yolk sac were seen
- Yolk sac measured 4.3mm
- Baby’s heart rate was 154 bpm
- The uterus appears normal with no fibroids
- The cervix is closed
- A small superior subchorionic haemorrhage (small bleed near the pregnancy sac) was seen measuring 16 x 9 x 15mm with a volume of 1.2cc
- No free fluid was seen

Overall impression:
Single live intrauterine pregnancy measuring 7 weeks and 3 days with a small subchorionic haemorrhage present.

I'm starting the kitchen sink protocol in a little under 2 weeks after multiple unexplained losses. I am cautiously optimistic about this and am just looking for both positive and negative outcomes from others. I have been eating clean since my last loss, but unfortunately did not cut back on bad habits such as alcohol consumption due to not planning to TTC until later this year which I feel terrible about. I have severe DOR and my cycles have rapidly shortned to 23 days which is why we are going ahead. I have been on ubiquinol 300mg/day for 3 months, prenatals since December, and Therlogix NAD+ for about a month. My protocol is as follows

-Doxycycline to be completed prior to CD1

-Low dose aspirin once daily starting CD1

4 days post ovulation:

-Claritin 20mg once daily

-Pepcid 20mg once daily

-Dexmethasone 0.75mg once daily

-Progesterone 200mg twice daily

Hey everyone 👋

Hoping some wise people here can help

To date I’ve had 3 miscarriages (9 weeks/ 5 weeks/7 weeks) and after testing at the CRP clinic in Epsom (UK) I started and started a complex protocol (prednisone, hydroxychloroquine, progesterone and intralipids). After 4 cycles, I have fallen pregnant and had great first scan measuring 6 weeks and 6 days (2 days a head of where I should have been).

Today am 7 weeks and 4 days. But here’s where I need help, my symptoms are SO mild compared with my previous pregnancies. Am a bit tired, some cramping, some slight food aversions, slightly more bloated, some dry heaving and what I can only describe as blood sugar crashes so I have to graze constantly. But other than that nothing much to report. My previous pregnancies I have been fighting for my life at this point with like flu symptoms, nausea and extreme fatigue.

I know everyone will say just go for a reassurance scan, but literally every reassurance scan has ended badly for us so the trauma is real and my next clinic scan is in 9 days.

Has anyone else had this experience of no to mild symptoms whilst on a reproductive immunology protocol like is it a thing?

Thanks so much in advance ❤️

Hi all, just had my second loss at 5 weeks. I lost my first pregnancy at 19 weeks due to PROM. Me and my husband are absolutely devastated as we were so hopeful with this pregnancy. I’m not even sure why I’m posting on here I’m just absolutely numb…