u/Obvious_Shoe845

I have really been struggling lately. We just found out the microarray results from our mmc and d&c two weeks ago. They came back genetically normal.

This is our third loss - spontaneous miscarriage at 6 weeks in December, chemical in April, and now missed miscarriage at 9 weeks in June. We have referrals for genetics and reproductive endocrinology that we will be scheduling soon.

I am so terribly sad and discouraged. We had seen the heartbeat twice and were extremely hopeful. I don't know how to feel better. I either feel like an emotionless zombie or I am sobbing. My husband has been supportive but I feel like we are on different pages. I am not sure who to talk to because I feel like no one understands.

Anyone else had normal genetic d&c results?

Advice on coping with recurrent pregnancy loss?

These last 7 months have been the absolute worst. We conceived quickly but it led to a spontaenous miscarriage at 6 weeks in December. It was ultimately discovered to be ectopic/PUL and I had to be treated with methotrexate. If course a 3 month wait for TTC.

Conceived the first cycle but ended with a chemical pregnancy.

Conceived again the first cycle after the chemical. We thought things were going so well. We had seen the heartbeat three times (6w0d, 7w0d -137, 7w6d -157) so we felt like we were in the clear. Went for an elective ultrasound over the weekend (9w1d) and baby had stopped growing at 8w0d with no heartbeat.

I had a D&C yesterday which honestly has been the easiest of the three losses physically. Mentally and emotionally obviously still not great but not worse than miscarrying/lots of bleeding at home.

To top it all off, my cousin had her baby the same day as my d&c. She announced to the family she was pregnant shortly after my miscarriage in December which hit me really hard.

I just feel like being a mom is not in the cards for me. At this point I feel like I cannot and will not be able to do this again. I have always wanted kids and I am struggling with the fact that we may not be able to.

Any advice?

I am currently 6w2d. I have had some brown spotting on and off since Thursday.

Fortunately, I was able to get an ultrasound on Friday (6w0d) due to a past ectopic where we heard a heartbeat but it was not measured because I was so early. CRL was 5w5d (which is ok because I think I ovulated a day or two later).

I feel like most of my symptoms have decreased the last two days, the day after my ultrasound. My boobs and nipples are still very tender but I am not bloated anymore and definitely less hungry and less tired.

This is my third pregnancy and my longest so far. The doctor said to be cautiously optimistic but I can't help but be worried.