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Looking for words of advice or hope. I’m 32. Hubby 37. I just had surgery yesterday for my missed miscarriage. I truly thought this one would stick - we saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks but it died at 8.5. I found out at 10 weeks. I had a chemical in January and then an ectopic in August 2025. Would you try again if you were in my position, or should I get some tests? I have so much trauma as I’ve gone through all my losses within the last 12 months of trying. I don’t know how much more I’ve got in me. Any words of experience, advice or any thoughts I’d be so appreciative of, this is a dark place to be.

Hi everyone. Last year I had an ectopic pregnancy treated with MTX, start of the year I had a chemical, and today I just found out I’m having a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. Im not sure what I’m looking for from this, but words of advice from people who have been through similar would help please. I’m devastated and worried I’m now infertile. I’m unsure of how to navigate this grief and don’t know how I’ll survive. My first ectopic broke me. Thank you in advance.

Hi everyone. Last year I had an ectopic pregnancy treated with MTX, start of the year I had a chemical, and today I just found out I’m having a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. Looking for words of advice from people who have been through similar please. I’m devastated and worried I’m now infertile.

Is it normal to eat a full medium pizza to yourself? Along with a big dip? I honestly don’t even feel that full but it’s more than 2k calories. I’m pregnant so I’m using that as an excuse.

What the caption says. She said ‘in a good way!! In a healthy way!!’ When I told her I didn’t want to be called plump, and she instantly backtracked. I have indeed been eating like a horse since about 5 weeks. I feel sick and the only thing that helps is food. I’m so conscious about my body changing and I feel gross and fat anyway without someone else confirming it. Why are mothers like this?!?!?

I told her and she was so unsurprised - apparently she could tell by my walk!?!? I’m only 8 weeks!

Has anyone else been around people that could tell they were pregnant before they announced? If so, what gave it away?

I’m a fully qualified interior designer with 11 years experience- and I’ve been fired twice.

First time I got fired I was working as for a small start up. I was 24 years old. They wanted me to come in and get a concept design they were struggling with signed off by the client. I helped them with this and it was signed off. A few of my ideas were published in a newspaper under their company name. Then on the day my probation ended they let me go saying I was too inexperienced. I walked out the room and never went back.

Second time was recently, I’m 33 now. Started a new design job in May, all was going great. In August I had an ectopic pregnancy which was devastating. I had to take two weeks off due to being physically unwell. When I came back there was a contract on my desk waiting for me to sign stating I was on a 12 month probationary contract. Over the next few weeks all work was taken away from me. I was sacked 5 weeks after coming back.

This industry has broken me, so I’m now building my own business - because life is too short to work for c*nts! How has your experience been in the industry? I personally have found it quite brutal.

I’m 5 weeks pregnant and keep getting bad cramping. Lastnight it woke me up it was so bad and I went to the ER. They told me my hcg level is at 10,450 and I will get an ultrasound to rule out ectopic pregnancy on Monday. I’ve had no other symptoms or bleeding, and the pain from lastnight has not come back for almost 24 hours now and I’m feeling totally fine. Has anyone experienced cramping and it turn out to be something that isn’t as ominous? My nurse told me that my hcg levels indicate a healthy pregnancy but they still need to rule out ectopic for caution.

I’m around 5+1 and been getting cramping the past week that is really sore. It’s wide spread and almost feels like I need to pass gas but nothing comes out. It woke me up lastnight and I was in agony, I was sweating and writhing in pain. I had an ectopic pregnancy last year so phoned nhs 24 and they told me to go to a&e. Went to a&e and they did checks and because I’m not bleeding and the pain subsided they have sent me home. My hcg levels came back at 10,450 which I think is pretty high? I’ve got a scan on Monday but have the whole weekend filled with anxiety of having another episode of cramping and I’m so concerned about ectopic. Not sure what I’m looking for other than a bit of positivity from anyone who has experienced really sore cramps in early pregnancy as I’m a nervous wreck just now.

I’m currently 4+2 or 20 dpo, and lastnight in my sleep I had an orgasm. This isn’t unusual for me, but what is unusual is the pain that followed. The cramps were really intense for about 60 seconds afterwards, felt like major major period cramps, and now it’s about an hour later and I’m still cramping although it’s not as intense. No bleeding or anything. Has anyone had this before? So worried it’s done something to the embryo or is the start of a miscarriage.

I am 4 weeks pregnant after one ectopic and one chemical. I went to meet my friends new baby yesterday who I would have been due to give birth with at the same time but I had an ectopic and lost my baby. I then fell out with her shortly after my loss because she announced her pregnancy weeks after I had lost mine without any sensitivity towards me. We would have been literal days apart. She apologised and we moved on. Her baby was beautiful and I’m so happy for her, but I knew it would be hard. My other friend who was there is also very pregnant and due in a few months. Neither of these friends have ever experienced loss. They do not know I’m pregnant just now, but they know about my loss and that I’ve been trying. The whole conversation circled around babies, pregnancy, labour, and miscarriage yesterday. I cried the whole way home and had a panic attack because I feel so triggered by seeing them. I’m so worried I have another loss, I barely slept lastnight for the anxiety. I don’t know why I’m posting this, but I suppose I just need to get it out into writing. If anyone has kind words I would love to hear them, this feels like an incredibly lonely place to be. I realised when I was driving home lastnight that I thought a new pregnancy would instantly make me feel better, but I’ve realised that nothing will ever take away the pain of having an ectopic and losing my first pregnancy when all my friends are having lovely pregnancies around me. I was also fired after my ectopic (was definitely discriminated against) so I have a lot of trauma from this part of my life. I think I’m just looking for kind words and a bit of reassurance that I’m not going insane and these feelings are normal? 🥺❤️‍🩹 thank you x

I am 4 weeks pregnant after one ectopic and one chemical. I went to meet my friends new baby yesterday who I would have been due to give birth with at the same time but I had an ectopic and lost my baby. I then fell out with her shortly after my loss because she announced her pregnancy weeks after I had lost mine without any sensitivity towards me. We would have been literal days apart. She apologised and we moved on. Her baby was beautiful and I’m so happy for her, but I knew it would be hard. My other friend who was there is also very pregnant and due in a few months. Neither of these friends have ever experienced loss. They do not know I’m pregnant just now, but they know about my loss and that I’ve been trying. The whole conversation circled around babies, pregnancy, labour, and miscarriage yesterday. I cried the whole way home and had a panic attack because I feel so triggered by seeing them. I’m so worried I have another loss, I barely slept lastnight for the anxiety. I don’t know why I’m posting this, but I suppose I just need to get it out into writing. If anyone has kind words I would love to hear them, this feels like an incredibly lonely place to be. I realised when I was driving home lastnight that I thought a new pregnancy would instantly make me feel better, but I’ve realised that nothing will ever take away the pain of having an ectopic and losing my first pregnancy when all my friends are having lovely pregnancies around me. I was also fired after my ectopic (was definitely discriminated against) so I have a lot of trauma from this part of my life. I think I’m just looking for kind words and a bit of reassurance that I’m not going insane and these feelings are normal? 🥺❤️‍🩹 thank you x