I've had 6 miscarriages and 1 ectopic. I met with a fertility doctor today that wants to do a saline ultrasound and mentioned that it might lead him to do a hysterscopy but I would need to be on birth control leading up to the procedure so that the lining in my uterus stays thin enough. Since it would be used for a procedure and not the purpose to prevent a pregnancy, this is okay, right?
TL;RD: Soaking pads and passing golf ball sized clots 25 days after passing the sac but it's slowed down now.
Me again. Still going through my 7th loss. This has been an extremely long process and I think I may need some intervention. June 24th I learned my baby stopped developing pretty much the day before. I didn't start spotting until July 17th and I passed the sac July 21st. I've had random bouts of heavy bleeding and clots since then and my ultrasounds every 2 weeks for the last month show there's just a little bit left. On August 10th I started bleeding heavier after it had tapered to brown spotting. Had an ultrasound this day. The next day I was having to change my pad frequently for a couple hours but it slowed down to spotting again. Which brings me to yesterday (August 14th). Story time.
My sister got married yesterday. Around 3pm I started bleeding fairly heavy. My parents didn't want a wedding coordinator but they both left the venue and so I was delegating and just ignored the bleeding. Only one girl had her dress steamed prior so I had to steam 7 dresses as well as my sister's dress and her massive veil. By 4pm I was passing golf ball sized clots every 30 minutes to an hour and changing my pad every 20 to 40 minutes. My husband had to bring me more. I pushed through, no one knew what was going on besides that I kept going to the bathroom. We got dressed at 6:30 so I used my last pad, took some Ibuprofen, and hoped for the best. I avoided the bathroom and I didn't feel clots so I thought it may have stopped. I wasn't ever sitting and my dress was hot pink, long, and flowy so I wasn't worried about leaking through it. I finally went to the bathroom at 10pm and when I pulled my dress up my spanks and legs were just red. I couldn't even pull them down without help because of my dress so I went to find my husband and we just loaded up and left. He stopped by a drug store and got me more pads. I passed another large clot when we got home.
The bleeding is just heavy spotting with some small clots now. I know I should've gone to the ER yesterday around 6pm because of how bad the bleeding was. But I needed to be there for my sister and make sure things got done. I have an appointment on Tuesday to do another ultrasound. It's been 25 days since I passed the sac. I'm guessing having times of heavy bleeding and large clots at this point is not normal and I have RPOC. But idk if there's still a chance my body will take care of it. Has anyone experienced this?
TW: LC mention
Wanted to share what happened to me today because I feel like y'all can be baffled with me.
I'm going through loss number 7 (MMC, stopped growing at 7w5d, discovered on 6/24) and have been going the natural route so I'm being monitored often. I've had a different ultrasound tech each time and they've known what I was there for until today.
She asked when my last period was and said, "Okay, so you're 14w4d." Then she asked how many times I've been pregnant. I told her 8. She said, "Oh, you go girl, with your big family." I just continued climbing onto the table. She then asks how many deliveries. I told her one. She gets a bit quiet. She then says, "And you haven't had any bleeding with this pregnancy?" I then explain to her why I'm there as I now realize she thinks I'm there for a normal pregnancy ultrasound. She just does the ultrasound after this and doesn't say a word. When she finishes she quietly says she's sorry. She pulls the wand out and is just holding it there in front of me and its just covered in blood and when I get up I see that there's a pool of blood on the table and on the floor. I had to use almost the whole baby wipe package to clean myself up in the corner of the room while she was cleaning the room.
I hope that the experience made her slow down a bit and take a bit of time to read her patients' files. I was her first of the day and I had to do labs first so she had an extra 20 minutes before I came in. If my other techs had not known why I've been there throughout the last 2 months I'd blame the hospital. But they were fully aware so I know they get the files ahead of time. Hopefully my experience will prevent this from happening to anyone else.
I'm still going through my 7th pregnancy loss. Found out I was pregnant on May 26th. I started spotting the very next day but my HCG was more than doubling. We left for vacation with my husband's family on May 31st and I continued light spotting here and there. I was so stressed the whole week. On June 11th I attended my sister's Bachelorette party, still stressed. On June 13th I helped host my SIL's Baby Shower for her baby that is due 10 days after my previous miscarriage was due. On June 24th my first ultrasound at 7w6d showed a gestational sac and yolk sac that measured 7w4d, no fetal pole. I knew in my gut the whole time something was wrong. My spotting stopped 2 days before my ultrasound. Only my husband and I knew I was pregnant. June 27th we celebrated my dad's birthday. We prayed that a miracle would happen but one week later (July 1st) there was still no fetal pole, just a 7w5d gestational sac with a yolk sac. I chose to miscarry naturally. We still did not share our news. July 11th I hosted my sister's bridal shower. July 12th we celebrated my BIL and FIL's birthday. My MIL called my husband a few days later because she was worried about me, said I didn't seem myself despite my best efforts I guess. He told her the news but asked her not to share. July 15th I still hadn't miscarried but my doctor let me keep waiting. July 17th I started spotting. July 19th we celebrated my husband's brthday with family while I was bleeding and starting to have contractions. July 21st I passed the sac. I finally told my mom. July 27th it was confirmed that the sac had passed but I still had some tissue/blood in my uterus. In the last two weeks we have met with our priest to plan a funeral for all 7 of our babies even though I only have remains of 2. I got their casket in this week. I have not gone a day or even a bathroom trip without having some kind of bleeding or spotting since the 17th. Tonight (August 8th) I just passed what I think is a decidual cast.
I know some of you may be thinking "Why would you not just tell your mom sooner?" Well guess what? She has not asked me once how I am doing. Which is fine. She's working on my sister's wedding. But tonight she is guilt tripping me because I didn't show excitement about pictures of a deer in the yard or curtains she hung up. She says nothing they do brings me joy. That no one can make me be happy with our family. And let me tell you. I've been through this SEVEN times. I have learned to grieve and I don't let my grief consume me anymore. I can go about my day and no one has any idea I'm upset. I treat people kindly, I don't cry, I carry out conversations, I joke. I've been helping plan my sister's wedding for crying out loud. I think my MIL could just see it deep down. My own mother has to make me feel like I'm some terrible person while I just lost my 7th baby. She already has always given me grief because I'm not an outwardly expressive person, especially through text. But right now, can I have a little grace? She had 2 miscarriages but apparently she still doesn't get it. She had the audacity to get upset when she found out I told my sister about miscarriage number 6 because my sister is already "scared she will have trouble getting or staying pregnant" because of my history and she didn't want to hurt her mental health. She also always gets mad that I don't tell her as soon as I get pregnant.
On top of this, my SIL who doesn't want to be a mom is due next week. I just passed my due date for loss number 6 four days ago. I also found out my friend who was OAD because her husband doesn't want another is accidentally pregnant and due exactly 1 month after I was supposed to be due. My best friend's 3rd baby is a month older than loss number 5 should be. The reminders are a lot harder on me than anyone, even my husband, realizes. I keep it all under wraps.
I'm really okay. I'm just feeling frustrated. It's been a really long summer and I just needed to vent to someone who's not my poor husband. Thank you if you read this ridiculously long post.
My son is 2 years and 8 months. Naps and bedtime have always been hard and he has always dropped naps on the earlier end of the range. We had a good 6ish months of 12 hour nights. Now he usually doesn't fall asleep until 9 or later and wakes up at 7:30. He fights nap no matter if I try at 12 or 2. I shoot for 1:30ish. He functions fine on days he doesn't nap. He occasionally gets over tired if it's a day where we didn't have any downtime and he played hard all day. I would consider dropping it but if we're in the car between 12:30 and 1:30 he always falls asleep. As long as he hasn't been asleep for more than 15 minutes then I can transfer without him waking and he will take a good nap. Do I just attempt to make him stay in his room for a set time whether he sleeps or not or just have him nap on days we're in the car?
I posted about recurrent miscarriages recently. I've had 7. I saw my endo today and she told me since I'm no longer pregnant, that I need to drop back to 88 of my Synthroid instead of the 100 I've been on since May when I got a positive pregnancy test regardless of my current TSH. It was drawn today after my appointment (at my request) and is 1.84. It was 5.94 when I got my positive test and 2 months prior to getting pregnant it was 2.54. Is this a weird thing for a doctor to do? She's new for me and I've never had a doctor change my dose lower before even checking my numbers. She also said the Thyroid has no effect on pregnancy, especially with my history.
Sorry I'm posting again. I just left my doctor and I'm feeling defeated and angry. I asked if she could test me for Chronic Endometritis once I've completed this miscarriage. I've had 7 losses. I have a history of polyps. I just want to rule some stuff out and I've had lots of testing in the past. This woman didn't even hesitate and told me that I don't have Endometritis because that's when women get infected after birth and have fever, chills, and pain so it's not something to be tested for. I tried to tell her that I had learned that Chronic Endometritis is different but she said it's not and to message her any questions instead of getting on Google. I Googled as I was walking out because I think I feel gaslit. A simple search explains Acute vs Chronic and I just don't see why she couldn't have said she'd look into it if she wasn't sure what I was saying was valid.
I found out on June 24th that my pregnancy is not viable. I was 7w6d but sac was 7w4d with a yolk sac but no fetal pole. A week later sac was only 7w5d. I started spotting on July 17th I passed some large clots July 21st. I've just had bleeding and small clots and tissue here and there since. I only bled heavy the night I passed the clots. It's now July 26th. I don't see how I could've possibly passed the sac. The whole reason I denied intervention was so that I could make sure I got my baby's remains so I've been adamant about checking everything that I pass. I go for a scan in the morning. I'm anxious. If you had to have intervention in order to complete a miscarriage, was it by choice to just get it over with? Did your doctor advise you to? Or was it because you were septic? How long from diagnosis did it take before they intervened?
I'm currently going through my 7th pregnancy loss. I have one living child. I've had Hashimotos since I was 10. I'm 32 now. I was on Synthroid from 10-22 before switching to my own insurance and being put on Levothyroxine. I was allergic so my endo switched me to Armour. I stayed on Armour and my levels were always great in pregnancy and I never needed dose adjustments and he never took me off despite the risks. After loss number 6 I found a link to Armour and low progesterone so I asked to be put on Synthroid again. I thought maybe that was an issue. This pregnancy was the only one that my TSH was high in. They had to up my dose and last it was checked it still wasn't below 2.5. I'm not sure if my thyroid caused the loss just because my history is crap anyway. My antibodies are always high. They rarely get checked because every doctor has told me that's just part of the disease. I'm wondering if my body would be attacking the pregnancies or something. Just wondering if anyone has suggestions on what I can ask my endo specifically? The one I see is new, I saw her back before I got pregnant and she was great and was invested in my fertility which the others never felt was their responsibility. Unfortunately she was on maternity leave when I got pregnant and her office blew me off. I had to have my OB draw my Thyroid labs and up my dose.
TW: Pregnancy Loss
Long story short: I had 4 miscarriages in 2022 before having my son in 2023. We started trying again in 2025 and I've had an ectopic and 2 more miscarriages in the last 11 months.
Pregnancy is hard on me. I'm overly anxious and then my nausea is bad so I can barely drink water. I survived my son's pregnancy but didn't have a toddler to take care of. I'm not the wife and mother my family deserves and the reality is I'm more likely to lose a pregnancy than to have another baby. I was an only child for 10 years and I was so lonely. My husband is the youngest of 5 and I love that his family has so many stories and he's still close with them.
I see positives to just having one. My life is way easier than my friends with 2+ kids. But pregnancy announcements hurt so bad. My friend was OAD not by choice, but because her husband believes if they have another their marriage will end. Well she just texted me the other day and despite prevention methods, she's pregnant. I'm happy for her because she has been wanting another but her husband wouldn't budget on the subject. But I'm not sure if will ever be able to not have grief that I won't have the large family like I wanted.
I'm on loss number 7. I'm 9w1d but baby stopped growing at 7w5d. I've had one other MMC but we opted for a D&C. My other loss that was past 6 weeks was a blighted ovum which we also did a D&C for. Both of those were genetically normal so I doubt this one is a chromosome issue and I want to make sure I get my baby's remains this time and don't trust our hospital at all. I was on progesterone which I haven't taken since Tuesday (it's Friday). I'm already anxious about the process since I've never naturally miscarried this late before plus they found a SCH so I know there will be extra bleeding. But I'm tired of being so sick. I have zero energy and feel nauseous almost all day long. I live in Texas so going outside for even 5 minutes makes me feel like I might pass out. I can barely drink water because it makes me more nauseous. I've never had severe pregnancy symptoms with any of my losses and it's feel torturous right now. I almost feel like I'm on my way to sepsis but I know that's dramatic.
Pregnancy #8. Only successful was #5. Grateful for my LC but what is wrong with me? I don't even know one person who's had more than one miscarriage and even those are so few. I don't even want to share with anyone that I lost another cause pretty sure people at this point don't even feel sad for me. Just think I'm stupid for continuing to try.
I just had an ultrasound today and baby should be 7w6d but there was only a yolk sac measuring 7w4d and no baby/fetal pole. I go back next week to confirm the loss. This is my 8th pregnancy but I only have one living child. He was my 5th pregnancy. I'm blessed that I was part of creating 7 souls for Heaven and that I have a beautiful little boy here on Earth with me. I had a feeling since the day after my positive test a month ago that something was wrong and I did my best to ignore it. My husband doesn't know if he wants to do this anymore because of my anxiety while I'm pregnant as well as how upset I am when I lose a pregnancy. And I understand his perspective 100%. I get pretty bad nausea and fatigue when I'm pregnant and then my anxiety goes up and down and my brain is just like mush on top of just feeling crummy. I really dug into praying and doing my best to remind myself that God has a plan no matter what this time. But I just get this feeling that I'm not doing enough to give my babies a chance and I feel worthless. Since I have a toddler I'm not gonna let myself just wallow. I went to Mass when I left my appointment and got myself together before my son got up from his nap. So I'm holding it together just fine. But I don't know how to curb my anxieties and function as normal if I get pregnant again. I don't know if I try more interventions from doctors to help any future pregnancies or if I just hand it to God fully without any help but His. Or if we should just do natural family planning to prevent pregnancy altogether, but that breaks a little part of me to think about. I'm not opposed to adoption but the process is pretty tedious and expensive but I know some people who have adopted so I have some resources. I'm not sure what I'm looking for by posting this. The miscarriage groups have a lot of people who don't believe in God so I preferred to post here. Thank you for reading.
My grandmother's maiden name which is now her middle name is Ellis. My other grandmother's name was Joyce so I've planned on using that as a middle name since she passed. I also think Ellie is a cute nickname for Ellis. Is Ellis Joyce "S" last name too much of a mouthful? Or does that matter since it's special? The only female Ellis I've heard is from Grey's Anatomy. My husband and I had picked the name Millie Joyce if we had a girl a few years ago but had a boy whose name is Riley (which is my husband's middle name, and our son has a family name as his middle name). I still like Millie but I know like 3 people who have named their dogs Millie so idk if that'd be weird.
I posted a few days ago about pushing for an earlier scan since I had an ectopic last year and have been spotting for the last 2 weeks, on and off. I'm 5 weeks and 5 days today. Well after waiting 2 days they finally got back to me and what do you know, the doctor is out of town all week. The nurse said it's too early to see anything but maybe a gestational sac (yes I know this, that's all I was wanting to see to make sure it's in my uterus) so they're not going to order a scan. They said they will order HCG quants and that will help them decide if it's ectopic. I asked if it should double in 48 hours (I read that between 5 and 6 weeks it slows down) and she said it should double or more than double. My last HCG draw was 262 and that was when I was 14 dpo. Doubling every 48 hours means tomorrow it'd be 16,768. Should it really keep doubling in anyone's experience? I'm just not trusting this nurse because when I first asked for a placement scan she didn't know what I meant because "it says you're already pregnant." I don't want to start spiraling if when I do this test it's not over 16,000 and/or doesn't double in 48 hours.
I had an ectopic in July 2025. It was caught early and there's nothing that points to me having blocked tubes. I had an early miscarriage (my levels did some yoyoing but my doctor didn't think it was ectopic, just an early loss) after my 3 month wait after MTX. I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant and had to get established with a new doctor since mine has dropped all pregnancy patients. My new doctor has my full history but doesn't have me scheduled for an ultrasound until I'm a few days from being 8 weeks. I've had on and off spotting since 12 dpo. It stopped for three days but returned and is again on and off. Only when I wipe. I haven't had any symptoms like I did with my ectopic but they only did 2 HCG blood draws. 12 dpo it was 71 and 14 dpo it was 262. So they didn't think I needed anymore. I'm just so anxious and feel like they should do a scan next week but maybe I'm being dramatic.
TW: Mention of LC and pregnancy
Found out I'm pregnant this week for the EIGHTH time. I have one LC that came after 4 miscarriages in one year. I've since had an ectopic and another miscarriage. I'm an absolute wreck. My husband is trying so hard to be supportive but I know he's getting sick of me being miserable every time I'm pregnant. I want this more than anything and would go through it over and over to have more living children. I just don't know how to not worry and just be like "Oh well I might lose another baby." I just want to blissfully unaware like everyone else I know who's had children. Instead I'm overanalyzing every twinge and obsessively looking at toilet paper when I wipe. I started spotting 12 DPO after getting a positive on 11 DPO. I'm now 15 DPO and the spotting still comes and goes and it's just killing me. My HCG almost quadrupled from 12 DPO to 14 DPO but I just won't feel any relief until the spotting is completely gone and I see a heartbeat. We leave for vacation tomorrow so I'm just stuck in limbo. My OB also has dropped pregnancy patients so I'm waiting to be approved to see another provider which has to have approval because she isn't an MD and I'm high risk. Every MD accepting patients has the worst reviews I've ever seen. Lawsuits for neglect and more. So here I am trying not to be the most miserable human being to be around while praying that my baby is going to make it earthside and I don't even have a doctor I trust. Thank you for reading my vent. I'm sorry we're here.
Took a test yesterday at 11 DPO (tracked ovulation) and it was positive on a strip as well as equate digital. Woke up with some light red spotting when I wiped. Since, it's been light pink/brown but not nearly as visible and not mucousy or anything. I can't tell if I'm cramping or just have a nervous stomach, plus it's after 12pm and I have yet to eat. My HCG was 70.1 this morning (which is the highest it's ever been this early on, even with my one successful pregnancy) and progesterone was 12.37 so I'm starting supplementation today. I took another strip test today and it's darker than yesterday afternoons test. I have had 5 miscarriages and an ectopic so I'm extremely anxious and would only like SUCCESSFUL/positive feedback. I know enough negative outcomes that I don't need to hear those. Thank you 🥺
Can someone explain why almost all the wedding invites recently have so many separate pieces of paper? Is it strictly for esthetics? I'm helping my mom make invites for my sister's wedding. I've been comparing to invites I've gotten recently and I honestly hate that there's so many pieces. I understand not wanting a lot all in one spot but having a bundle of information on 3 pieces of paper is more annoying to me. Would it be okay to have the basic invite on the front with the date and location and all that and then do a combo of the qr code, details and directions (it's at our family's ranch so the address will only get them to the gate) and then have the RSVP card with a stamped and addressed envelope? (My mom wants physical RSVPs in hopes that more people will actually respond.) Or do the directions need to be on a separate card?
My husband and I have lost 6 pregnancies. 4 in 2022 and 2 in 2025. We have 1 LC born in 2023. We recently became Catholic and have grown a lot in our faith which has helped tremendously in this journey. Well yesterday my husband came home with a framed picture he created in AI of Jesus and Mary with our 6 babies in Heaven. I can't stop looking at it. AI weirds me out a bit but I love that it could help create something so meaningful for me. My babies all have names but creating faces for them as well until I get to meet them in Heaven brings me so much joy. I just wanted to share with some people who might understand. I'm sorry y'all are here. 💙