r/CatholicWomen

My problem is in the title. My husband is a once a week guy but he's going through medical residency so he is just....tired

I feel incredibly selfish for wanting/needing it so much more and I'm beginning to feel like a nag. I told myself I wouldn't initiate and just let him come to me but I just....can't, I don't have the self control. My libido is just sky rocketing in my late 30s (it's always been higher though)

It makes me feel unfeminine, unloved, not connected, grouchy when it comes up on the one week without mark.

I'm very conscious that my pestering will lead him to feeling emasculated and blow up my otherwise happy marriage. We've been together 12 years for context

i always feel like theres a subtle 'expectation' that because im a woman i must want to get married and have kids. This has never at any point been the case for me. I love that other people find joy in it but i always try to avoid the subject with other catholics. I have never liked kids, personally. By that I dont mean i wish any ill-will on kids whatsoever, i just generally am not a fan of them at all. I guess this post is mostly about babies - i dont find them cute at all. I get really uncomfortable being asked all the time when im going to get married and have kids, and then I have to answer honestly "never" and get the wide-eyed judgemental looks, the gasps, and then having to explain myself. I genuinely dont know how to answer "why not" because i cant conjure up a single thing i like about them. To be completely blunt, i find them (specifically babies, toddlers) rather repulsive, even though I know in my mind that they are blessings and children of God. Im just personally repulsed by them and avoid being around them. I feel bad that I feel this way but its just who i am. I dont have any trauma, ive just always felt this way. I feel like a black sheep and it really sucks. i feel like a defective woman

I know the obvious answer here will be to speak to my local priest but before I do I wanted to seek some insight.

Long story as shortened as I can make it: I was born Catholic, baptized, received Holy Communion and had my Confirmation. Husband was born Catholic, baptized and received Holy Communion. He never received his Confirmation.

In my teens I left the church (lukewarm Christian household), became agnostic/atheist, got into new age which turned into the occult.

Met my now-husband in 2014, lived together from 2015 onward before getting married in 2021. Found God on my own in 2020 but was searching for “less strict” churches like non-denominational. Didn’t quite click with them. Found my way back to the Holy Catholic Church only last year and finally began attending Mass this June.

I did many confessions since that time and I was absolved for them all, including marrying outside the church, premarital relations, occult practices, ect. I unknowingly thought that meant I was allowed to receive Communion and only recently learned that’s not true. I feel so guilty for receiving now.

My husband is very much agnostic and he is not someone who will want to go back to church. He is also very against having children. I agreed to it years ago because that’s what I thought I wanted and now I know having marital relations with someone the church does not recognize as my husband is also a sin.

I am lost for what to do. My husband is a wonderful man. But he is not a religious man.

Has anyone gone through this before? Or know of a similar issue? I pray to God of course but I also ask St. Monica to intercede for his conversion back to the church.

I’m open to all advice 🤍

Hi all. I gave birth a few months ago and am exclusively breastfeeding. It's all been going well baby is gaining weight, I'm also an overproducer but no so bad that it's unmanageable. The only downside is that my breast have grown to an insane size. I was a DDD pre pregnancy and already struggled with back and neck pain and self esteem issues with how clothes looked on me because I look rather unbalanced.

Now my breasts are double the size and I hate it. Everyone tells me they will shrink in size after weaning but I can't help but feel that they will just stay as saggy as they are. My grandmothee had size I breasts and had 5 llbs taken off of hee breasts after 4 children.

I wantna reduction so badly but doing that runs the risk of ruining my chances to breastfeed down the line and I really love breastfeeding! On top of that it feels a bit vain.

I dont even know if I'm asking for advice or just venting.

For cosmetic reasons?