Fear of being outdated
Hello, I'm 25 years old and I feel so old and worthless. Sorry for this depressing post… I need to talk to some Catholic women…
Since around 2024, I've started feeling a lot of anxiety and pressure about being considered past my prime by men, afraid it will be too late to have a husband and a child, afraid of the biological clock, as some like to point out. I've never had a boyfriend. I hardly have any friends at all.
I'm afraid of reaching 30 and never having had any romantic contact or conversation with a man. As a teenager, I dreamed of Prince Charming and I was very romantic. But the more time passes, the more I realize that men either leave me indifferent or disgust me. I also get the impression that a lot of Catholic men are misogynists… On the internet, redpill and incel rhetoric is rampant, and I feel so inadequate. I'm sometimes envious of Catholic girls who are already married or engaged, who have found someone while I'm super shy around men and lack the confidence to talk to them. I'm fed up with the rhetoric from these "radtrads" who say that a woman is worthless if she doesn't have children or isn't married, if she wears pants, if she has passions and wants to talk about them…
I've recently become closer to Anglicanism and Lutheranism, which I find much more calming than the Catholic environment, which I find incredibly anxiety-inducing. It hurts me because I know that by doing this, I'm causing pain to Christ, but I so desperately need to get away from the church, from all my anxieties about hell, the fear of being judged by others, the fear of not being a perfect enough woman… I'm exhausted.
Could you please pray for me ? May God reward you fivefold. Thank you so much.