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AITH for blocking a friend after a long friendship turned emotionally complicated and he kept blaming me and trying to pull me back into communication?

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I (21F) became friends with a guy (21M) through a college club. We stayed close during final year.

I asked him for help in my final year project. He helped, but I later chose to take it to a professional center to improve it for grades. He said he was okay with it, but got upset and later refused to return money he had spent. I didn’t push it.

After that, communication became inconsistent and tense. He often used sarcasm in conflicts. During GATE prep, we had a fight. He later implied his exam performance suffered because I didn’t check on him, which I felt wasn’t my responsibility.

Over time, arguments kept repeating. I felt that whenever there was conflict, he rarely took accountability and conversations turned into me being blamed for everything. Even when I tried explaining my side, it escalated instead of resolving.

I also delayed sharing my job placement news because he was going through a rough phase, but that later became another point of conflict.

Earlier, I had casually mentioned wanting to work in a different city, and later he treated it like a factor he should base his own career decisions on, which added pressure.

Eventually, I stopped engaging. He kept messaging for about 2 months. I clearly told him I don’t want to continue the friendship and blocked him on WhatsApp.

After that, he sent an SMS saying:

I should’ve at least replied if I cared

He feels abandoned and alone

I changed after getting placed

I owe him “valid reasons” for distancing

He wants clear explanations of what he did wrong

He referenced past expectations about future friendship/marriage-type assurances

He insists I’m being vague and unfair

Now I feel overwhelmed because every attempt to create distance turns into more demands for explanations and emotional escalation.

So I blocked him completely.

AITA for blocking him and refusing to keep repeating explanations in this cycle?

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