u/Express-Ant6570

the bathrooms and kitchen all started draining super slow right after the last big storm with some gurgling in the toilets and a faint smell in the shower. i checked the p traps and ran a snake through the accessible lines but it only helped temporarily before it came back worse.

since i had plumbers handle a drain issue for me last year they came back and ran a camera through the main line showing buildup from rain debris and suggested the vent stack might be partially blocked too from leaves and humidity. they cleared what they could with jetting but now im wondering if replacing the old sections is worth it or if regular maintenance is enough.

is the gurgling a sign the vent is clogged or does it point more to the main sewer line and what signs should i watch for before calling for a full inspection again?

I’ve been officially divorced for about 9 months now, separated for closer to two years. I know exactly where many of you are at right now: you think you and your ex are the "exception," that you can just talk things through like civil adults, stay friendly, and wrap it up quickly without making it messy. Seriously. Do. Not. Do. This. Alone. Thinking about doing mediation? Fine. But hire your own legal counsel anyway to vet every single sentence before you sign it.

Do you have children together? You need professional backing immediately. You have to lock down the logistics down to the absolute dollar and minute. Who handles the school drop-offs on alternating Tuesdays? What time exactly is the weekend handover? How are unexpected medical bills split? Who pays for extracurricular activities, sports gear, summer camps? What happens when one of you moves or introduces a new partner to the kids? If it isn't explicitly written into a legally binding decree signed by a judge, it doesn't exist. Good boundaries make good co-parents.

I fell into the trap of being "nice" and relying on informal handshakes. Big mistake. I have spent thousands more trying to fix the messy, vague loopholes in our original agreement than it would have cost to just do it right the first time. I trusted someone who was actively checked out of the partnership. Don't learn this the hard way like I did. Unless you own absolutely nothing together, have zero assets, and have no kids, protect yourself. Look into a firms to help you navigate the transition without turning it into an ugly, expensive war, but they still make sure you're legally bulletproof.

Good luck out there. This phase completely sucks, but life on the other side gets so much lighter. I just wish I hadn't paid such a high price to get here.