Is only fans cheating?
Throwaway account.
I found out a year ago that my fiancé has been spending money on onlyfans.
We went to couples therapy, I found out multiple more times he continued to do it. It was always the same story and lying to try to cover it up before I pushed him hard enough for the truth. The first time I found out I flipped my shit, and every time since then I feel like I care less and less. It hurts my feelings but I don’t know what to do. We have been together for 8 years, just moved to a new city where I don’t have any family, and he’s my only support. I don’t want to leave but I feel like I’m disrespecting myself by not leaving. I just don’t know what to do. I thought he was my soul mate and we have been through a lot together. We both have jobs involving heavy amounts of exposure to trauma and I want to be understanding of his needs and not be overbearing but the part that kills me is the lying and I’ve told him that. I told him when I found out again by going through finances with him a week ago that me choosing to go to couples therapy with him would be a privilege to him and that I wasn’t sure what I was going to do. At this point I’m embarrassed it’s gone on so long and I don’t want to talk about it with people who know us. I haven’t ever lived alone and I don’t have any friends or family I can stay with to get some distance. I really need some advice and perspective.