u/Express_Relation723

Days before Mother’s Day my husband confronted his mother telling her reasons she doesn’t see LO. After the visit as he was leaving she says to him “well I hope your bringing her to see me for Mother’s Day since it’s my first one as a grandmother I’ve invited all my family over for a brunch and figured that would be a good time for her to meet everyone”. Mind you she hasn’t seen LO since she was 8 weeks old she’s almost 9 months old. She’s so entitled to my daughter and so selfish. It was my first Mother’s Day she disregarded me and made it all about her. Even thought my husband has gone low contact and told her that she keeps crossing boundaries and she will never get to see LO if she can’t follow our boundaries she still thinks my husband will make an appearance on Mother’s Day.

When we got married on Mother’s Day I would have to ask my husband to go over to see her or even get her a gift which he would do. Since she’s been nasty to me ever since I had my baby I don’t care to celebrate her for Mother’s Day and my husband didn’t bother getting her anything or went over to see her.

He told me that he’s honestly exhausted trying to deal with his mother and he’s okay with just avoiding them and focusing on his family. He said he feels a huge weight lifted after he told them off and now it’s their turn to do what they’d like with that information.

So she had her Mother’s Day brunch thinking we’d show up because she’s entitled and looked like a complete fool infront of her family. She needs some serious help

After eight long months of telling my husband he needs to talk to his mom he finally did it.

Husband told her she needs to stop making nasty comments towards me about not working it was our decision we made as a family for me to stay home with our daughter and it’s none of her business.

Her response: “ I didn’t know that upset you guys”

Him: when you go out of state you can’t come visit my daughter after. When family members that are visiting from out the country she’s not coming over. Stop asking me constantly when I already said no.

Her: okay I’ll just lie when I go out of state. How wil you find out? Did she get all her shots I don’t get the big deal.

Husband: “you always give us a hard time about washing your hands”

Her: But I do it anyways. Everyone else sees their grand daughter and gets to babysit their granddaughter why is it so hard for me to see mine.

Husband: you acted crazy at our baby shower and helped us with nothing.

Her: I didn’t know I did anything wrong.

So he comes home and tells me his mom was unapologetic did not say sorry but she wants to call me to apologize. No she wants to call me to tell me she didn’t know she did anything wrong and cry that she needs to see her grand baby. My husband accidentally shipped some items to his moms house which he picked up when he was there she proceeded to ask him did you send this here as a tactic to get to see me and bring the baby 😂😂.

She thinks that he sent the items there so he can use it as a excuse to tell me his wife oh I have to go pick up this stuff and bring the baby along so she can see baby. Only a crazy person would make up something like that in their head because the baby didn’t go with him. She thinks I’m keeping the baby and my husband from her.

I’ve long ago blocked her and she told him when he left she’d call me. I’ll never unblock her because once I tried talking to her and she never admitted she was wrong or ever said sorry to me. I tried multiple times.

The fact that she could say to my husband I’ll just lie and still come see the baby proves to me that she doesn’t care about the well being of my daughter and I’ve honestly lost sleep over it because how could someone be so ignorant and selfish. My daughter was born during cold and flu season and they never respected any boundaries so I cut them off. Now I feel a bit more at peace that I did the right thing because I trusted my gut and I was right. As a mother I don’t want any type of lying, manipulated things going on around my child. And now I’m definitely certain I made the right decision by keeping them away.

My mom called me to tell me mil called her crying that I don’t let her see grand baby. My mom basically laid it on her and told her all the reasons why I went no contact (my mom asked my permission before she did this) I posted on here before about my justnomil. When my mom told her about the way she acted at the baby shower and didn’t help with anything she said I did help and my mom was like “no you didn’t” she had nothing to say.

Mom told her how she insulted me freshly pp saying “oh it’s easy for you to wake up with baby you don’t work” she said oh yea I said that but didn’t mean it that way. Saying how she says things but she doesn’t mean it. lol

Mom told her why would my daughter want to be around ppl that insult her all the time. She’s been through a lot and she finally has her baby and she wants to enjoy her.

The conversation ended, my mom told her there’s nothing I can do for you. My daughter and her husband are adults they make the decisions when it comes to their baby so talk to your son.

The reason she called my mom was because she thinks I’m the issue and her son is an innocent by stander with no say. When it was her son that wanted to go low/no contact because he said his mother won’t listen and always has to have the last word and won’t respect what he has to say.

This changes nothing on my end she’s still not seeing my daughter lol