I have failed as the eldest child
My brother (middle child) has cerebral palsy and autism, he will be a senior in highschool next year. I kind of expected that my younger brother and sister would not interact with each other as much when I was off to college but I didn't expect it to be this bad. They treat eachother like strangers hell my brother treats me like a stranger. And I know its not my or my sisters fault I am 100% certain that she has tried to create communication or establish a connection between them but my brother holds so much resentment for everyone in this house especially my parents. He wants to be independent so incredibly bad and views his own blood as holding him back. He would not last a week on his own. Like where the hell does he think hes going to go. He spends 95% of his life in my basement watching sports or God knows what. I'm so disappointed, I had a much different view of the three of ours relationship. And what the hell is going to happen when my parents are gone I don't want my sister to view it as her job to take care of him I don't want that for myself either I want the two of us to take care of him out of love but thats so impossible when he shows no remote love or feelings at all for that matter towards us. At this rate we will all severely resent each other by the time my parents are gone and that just makes me sad.
I am really upset and struggling.
Thanks