AIO for being upset with my husband for his family showing up unannounced?
My husbands family lives 30 minutes away. we spent the entire weekend with them at their home and they were over here all day yesterday until 9pm. We both worked today, I work at home and he works in the office. He tells me 5 minutes before they arrive that they are coming over.. while I’m working upstairs. This obviously made me upset and he tried to act like it was out of his control. He said that he didn’t have the time to tell them not right now but he has the time to tell them he wasn’t here and that I’m working. They said they’ll just wait for him, but I honestly don’t want any company right now. They were here all day yesterday and I am overstimulated from getting back to work after a long weekend plus having to clean our house, cook, and take care of my son.. so he’s at work and expecting me to be totally ok with them coming last minute. I personally think it’s that he couldn’t tell them “come by later” or even ASK ME yet he found the time to TELL me and tell them he’s working.
Now I just got off work and have to pretend to entertain his family without being rude.. it’s very frustrating and I’m trying to be nice but finding it hard. I decided to shower to blow off steam because I’m so upset. They came yesterday uninvited but at least a 20 minute notice, I had to stop my chores (excessive laundry) to console his mom so I have so much to do that of held off.
Also— yesterday when they were here, he decided to go play video games with his sister leaving me in the kitchen with his crying mom who was dealing with some personal issue. I was happy to be present and supportive, but I feel like ge just dropped that responsibility on me and just dipped out to go do something less stressful. I’m newly married to him (less than a year) and his family and I are just building a bond so I’m still becoming comfortable with them.
Am i overreacting and should I just be ok with this or would you be upset too?