My 17-year-old cousin is obsessively pursuing a girl and it's getting scary. What should I do?
Hi everyone,
I need some serious advice. My 17-year-old cousin recently confessed something to me that has me really worried.
He first saw a girl (also 17) wearing a saree at a celebration and became completely infatuated with her. Even after finding out she already has a boyfriend, he couldn't let it go. Later, they both ended up in the same class. That's when he started actively pursuing her.
He began stalking her, watching her every move, but never actually spoke to her properly. He misinterpreted her normal polite behavior as signs that she liked him back. One day he forcefully took a photo with her, which made her realize what was happening. She started distancing herself, and instead of accepting it, he got furious.
To get her sympathy, he came to class the next day with his hand tied and lied to everyone saying he got drunk with cousins, argued, and one of them twisted his hand. It was all fake. When that didn't work, he brought sweets and tried to forcefully feed her. After she still rejected him, he took it to another level — he carved her name on his hand with a razor and sent her the photo.
I'm really concerned. This feels like it's crossing from a crush into something unhealthy and potentially dangerous. He’s clearly not handling rejection well and is escalating.
What should I do?