How to Celebrate Father's Day for MTF Ex Who's Mid-Transition
Looking for input and advice before reaching out to my ex on this topic.
My ex is MTF and is out to family. So, our children are aware and fine with the ongoing transition. However, per my ex, pronouns and "dad" haven't changed yet. My daughter has been using "she/her" with "dad" here and there but generally we are still saying "he/him" and "dad." My ex told me changing either are still "TBD."
That said, my ex has also mentioned to me in the past that "father's day is particularly difficult" but also has the kids on father's day weekend per our divorce agreement. The divorce was just finalized recently and this is the first father's day since my ex came out and chose to end our marriage.
So what do the kids and I do to celebrate my ex as their other parent? Do I just ignore it? My ex didn't help the kids with anything for me for mother's day and only sent a "happy mother's day" text to me personally so I'm really not obligated to do anything. I still care as a person though, despite our past.
Looking for thoughts from what I hope is an understanding group who can appreciate the nuance in this situation and where I'm coming from.