Bf won’t make dinner because he works longer hours than me?
I’ve been living with my bf for a few months now and he works a 9-5 and has an hour commute and I have a 10 minute commute to work and work from 8-3. He expects me to make dinner every weeknight. While it makes sense to me because I work fewer hours, I also don’t want to be the primary cook in the household. He has agreed to do dishes when I cook, but the problem is that he leaves them overnight in the sink and refuses to do them until the next morning because he is tired. I once told him it’s not fair to expect dinner every single night because I also work a full time job as a teacher and he said that his mom made dinner for his dad every night. I don’t want to be unhelpful to my partner who works longer than hours but I also don’t want to be the default cook every night. When I don’t cook he gets takeout and pays for it but he will not ever cook otherwise, even on weekends.
Thoughts on how to approach this? I do the laundry, I buy the groceries, he buys takeout and dinner when we go out, we both clean
He also needs to have protein with every dinner he says. Last night i made an orzo salad which I thought was great and I was happy about it an he didn’t want to eat it. He said it was selfish of me to make this because I know he can’t eat a meal without any protein ( but we ran out of protein so I made do with what we had) and then he went and bought chipotle instead.
He does work from home 1-2 days a week, not sure if this is worth mentioning