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Maybe it's my fault.

We have a young kid so the only time we have alone is generally after he goes to sleep around 8:30pm. Every night, my wife goes to sleep at the same time as him. This happens even on days she takes a nap.

Maybe she is really tired. Maybe she needs that extra sleep. Maybe she just doesn't want to deal with me.

Before you start: I'm the primary parent. I do the majority of the daycare on a daily basis and have done so since he was born. I work 40-50hr per week. She works 20-30hr. I do all dishes, laundry, cooking, etc. I take her on dates, bring her gifts, let her know she is loved, etc. I barely get anything in return besides explanations she talked to her therapist about why she can't do anything.

How do you manage to get by in your sexless marriage? Did you pour yourself into hobbies? Did you focus on yourself more instead? Did you decide to cheat? Did you start masturbating more?

It's been difficult for me. Luckily(?) I started Cymbalta a couple years ago which has lowered my libido and lower my ability to care as much. It still really sucks but a little less so.