Struggling is this fixable? F25 and M25
F25 and M25
My partner of a year and a half moved in recently and honestly since then it’s gone downhill.
For the last week or so he has honestly been the most insufferable person to be around to the point I drove around yesterday crying because I couldn’t be around him. He’s severely depressed but no matter what I do I can’t help him because he just wallows in it and won’t talk to me but instead gets sarcastic and almost insulting. Numerous friends of mine has made comments about his behaviour towards me but again he blames it on feeling unhappy. He says there isn’t a reason for him feeling this way and nothing I can do to improve it.
Last night I finally snapped and told him he draining the life out of me and his answer was he can’t ever be happy and he has ruined every relationship due to this.
I understand depression and have tried to be the most supportive person but I have BPD and I’m struggling to not snap in this situation. He even made a comment last night that he misses his friend group and I did try to say why doesn’t he just move back there as I can tell he is struggling being here but he believes he made a “obligation” to be here.
He has numerous times been manipulative almost because it’s either his way or the highway.
He used to share a dog with his ex who he was visiting and walking on the frequent he has since been rehomed but they still talk about the dog etc and when I advised I had a issue with this his response was “don’t you think it’s hard and annoying as fuck for me to have to deal with you having a baby dad” which I couldn’t believe because I’ve never once hidden the fact I had kids, or how difficult this was going to be for him or even made him feel anyway about this and I don’t understand how his situation is comparable to mine when it was only a dog.
For a bit of backstory I have 2 children who he has now took on so as you can imagine it’s difficult for me to just end it as I took time introducing him. It’s also hard for me to feel so drained of life when I have 2 children to be happy for.