Beach trip advice/ dealing with boyfriends friends 😭
Okay, so my boyfriend and his friends decided to plan a beach trip. Originally, they told my boyfriend and I that we were going to Destin and that we could help plan it. But as my boyfriend and I started finding places and sending them over, they just wouldn’t respond.
Then, a few weeks later, I guess they talked to the other people going on the trip and changed the location to Daytona. They still didn’t let us help plan, and I was stressed because I’ve been to Destin many times before, feel comfortable there, and know my way around. Personally, I just felt safer and more comfortable going there.
Instead, they started getting frustrated with me for bringing up concerns, even though I just called them out for not including us in the conversations they were having with the other people. There are like 10 of us going—possibly more—so I just thought that was a bit unfair. Mind you, I’m 18 and the guy who planned the trip is 20.
Anyway, a few days ago, I saw on the news that a lady just died in Daytona, so I sent the article to my boyfriend and one of the guys going. His response was, "It’s a beach. It happens. That’s the cycle of life." I felt like that was a wild initial response to finding out someone died, and they got annoyed with me again, when I was genuinely just trying to point out the possible dangers of the area. Plus, there was recently a teen takeover there, and a lot of other safety issues have happened recently. If you do any research on it, you don't see a lot of great things about Daytona right now, and that genuinely concerns me.
On top of that, the beach house they picked only has one shower, which I just don’t think is realistic for 10+ people. At one point, I realized I wasn't going to change their minds about the city, so I accepted it and asked if we could at least look at a different house in Daytona. I told them, "Hey, somebody booked the house we're looking at for one of the days we're supposed to be there." Also, my boyfriend and I start college classes on Monday August 10th, and it would be really great if we didn’t get back on the 9th. But they booked that original place anyway instead of listening to the scheduling conflict. So now, we’re going to get back the night before we start our semester.
They keep saying I’m just trying to start drama, but I’m genuinely just concerned about the logistics and safety of this trip to begin with. The majority of the time I try to say something, it’s to help with planning—like pointing out the house was double-booked or bringing up safety concerns—but it keeps getting flipped back on me.
At this point, I obviously can’t change their minds about the trip details, so I need some advice on two things:
1. How can I handle this communication barrier with the group so my logistical and safety concerns stop being dismissed as "starting stuff"?
2. For anyone who has been to Daytona, do you have any recommendations for things to do or areas to stick to that are safer and away from the chaotic parts of the main beach? I want to make the best of this, but I'm really worried the trip is going to be a disaster.
I have looked in to some things to do around there, but if anyone else has any recommendations, that would be nice