genuinely why is my sister like this. why is it so hard to understand
my sister is 5 years older than me. she has ALWAYS been way less competent than me. and no, this isn’t me being full of myself and thinking i’m better
this is absolutely no shame to anyone who is like this, it just gets VERY tiring living with someone like this. i only have a few more months left living with her, but omg is it tiring
she has always been dependent on others. if she isn’t, everything is a mess, she won’t eat, and she just accepts it. it was like that growing up. even if my parents asked and asked and got onto her, she wouldn’t care and would not clean. so who did this fall back onto? me!
i have been living with my sister for a little over a year to some other circumstances, and i have seen her do the dishes, maybe 3 times (being generous here) and pick up a handful of times. but when she DOES pick up, it’s only trash and putting dishes in the sink. she won’t put things where it belongs, take them to whatever room they live in (unless it’s hers), she literally does the bare minimum. if it’s not below that. i have never since her vacuum. well, maybe 10 years ago. but in the last year, no!
because of this, i tackle the dishes, the deep cleaning, the vacuuming, practically daily. she dirties up the bathroom counter (she uses the most products), she doesn’t take out the trash, so i have to. literally, if she uses something, she sets it down and leaves it. if she is using lotion, she will set in down in the middle of the counter instead of putting it back. if she shaves, she will leave everything on the toilet seat and bathtub. WHY?? PUT IT BACK
anyways, before i get to the reason why i am so unfathomably annoyed at this 1. i just finished my bachelor’s degree 2. i was also working AND THREE: I HAVE A CHILD. so i have had a very very busy schedule, up until just now since i graduated. but that doesn’t mean im free to be a housewife. i still have a child to take care of, i still have myself to take care of, and i am currently on a mega hunt to find a job that fits my field so i can move tf out with my child and get started on graduate school
i am actually convinced that she does not realize how ungodly lazy she is. i’m so serious when i say this. let’s say i cleaned the whole apartment (like im having to do right now), she will go on to tell people “yeah, we/i had to clean the whole apartment because of X” WE/I?? YOU MEAN ME???
today she texted the gc with me, her, and her fiancé, saying there was a note that the apartment has to be cleaned and all these criteria for pest control to come spray (we don’t have a pest problem, some neighbors do). she said, “we have to clean the kitchen and bathroom.” we… we? WE.
she means me, she means her fiancé. like fuck can she stop acting like she does shit. it genuinely is so irritating when she says, “oh we have to do this.” okay i know you are not going to do it, so at this point, i would rather hear, “you need to do this,” or “can you do this?”
and trust, i know the argument of, “ just tell her to do it,” is very much understandable. but she is one of those people that cannot take criticism and cannot be told what to do. she “loses all motivation” and will get depressed. she will get mad and irritated, shut down, thinks everyone hates her, and yada yada
she goes to work, typically 4 hours for 3-4 days, comes home, goes to her room, locks the dorm, comes out when dinner is made, and talks about the kpop idols she is obsessed with or complains about work
it’s a whole think clearly. and i am being incredibly irritated by it all. so much so that it’s practically every day. at some point, i am going to snap. which i do hold off because then my brother-in-law will have to do it and i do not want to put that stressor on him
anyways, im just slowly hoping things get better