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My boyfriend (32) and I (34F) have been together for 7 months. We live together (moved in really quick- I think due to my dad passing away and I was a mess). Anyway, we’ve had a couple issues while we’ve been together that keep popping back up.

The first thing is he does competitive bikepacking. This leads to him leaving for a week or 2 at a time often where we can’t really communicate during it since he’s racing (he’ll literally be biking like 400 miles at once). I thought it was really cool when we met, but I’ve realized just how much of his life it’s taken up. I personally feel like he’s always chosen biking over relationships. With his last ex he would leave her in Michigan over the summers to go train elsewhere. She would be upset that he was doing it, but he would put his biking first. I noticed this quickly into the relationship. He just got back from 5 days in flag which was fine, and hes leaving for Oregon July 8th-22nd to go bikepacking.. then now told me he needs to go to Colorado for like a week in July and is going to probably fly to Michigan from Colorado to do another race and visit his family. And he’s recently talked about how he wants to do an 800 mile race here in Arizona beginning of October. I’m not sure why I get so upset about it. I want him to be happy, but he’s never really been in a serious long term relationship so I feel like him settling down and staying in one place isn’t something he wants, and I don’t know if he’ll ever want that. I feel so selfish when I bring up that I don’t want him gone that long or that much, but a part of me isn’t sure if we are even compatible. It’s not that I don’t like to travel, I just have a lot of anxiety and mental health stuff that makes it more challenging. I’m much more of a go for a long weekend somewhere or go on a long hike at this point in my life. I also don’t work remotely like he does, so I can’t just take off whenever I want- and I want my PTO to also be used for stuff I want to do as well, not just things he wants to do. He also complains that he’s depressed being stuck here for the summer (I live in TucsonAZ) and it’s regularly over 100 degrees here. It just feels like I’m limiting him so much. I’m okay with a partner traveling. My last ex would go out of the country every year for like 2 weeks. I feel like this is more something that I’m okay with. I just don’t want to be a part from my partner this much, and a part of me is afraid this is how it’s always going to be and it’s only going to get worse. I just feel really controlling right now that makes me feel like crap.

So am I the asshole here? Is it my own attachment issues and inability to be by myself or are our personalities and what we want out of life just really incompatible

Honestly just coming here to vent. I did my BSW in person at ASU in Tucson. I just started the online advanced standing program through ASU and I feel so overwhelmed. Doing 3 eight week classes at once is really starting to hit me. If anyone has any tips/tricks I would greatly appreciate it. It just feels like there’s so many readings/assignments due every week and my last semester of my BSW was honestly really easy. I think just balancing this with working is what is stressing me out the most.

Hello! I have been a caffeine drinker my whole life (since I was like 13/14) I have also always had extreme anxiety since I was little. Recently I went off of my SSRI with guidance by my psychiatrist because it was no longer working. Withdrawal symptoms have been ROUGH. I’m not even sure how I made it to work the past week. I was starting to suspect that my caffeine intake was making things worse. I was consuming 200 mg a day (one Alani energy drink) and my anxiety was high, very irritated and anxious. I recently went down to 150 and now I don’t feel the anxiety until about 12/1- so it’s being pushed back. My plan is to make to to 100 and see how I feel at that (I’m not sure I want to completely go off caffeine because I’m a long distance runner and caffeine can really help)

I’m still on other psych meds (a mood stabilizer, sleeping meds, 2 medications for anxiety). I ideally would like to get off more and was curious if anyone has been able to get off more or any psych meds once they had either limited or give up caffeine.

Hi everyone-

I start the advanced standing MSW program in about 3 weeks. I only worked 10 hours during my BSW program because of the internship and going to school. This summer I will have three 7.5 week classes at once. I work as a massage therapist, so I can’t work during work. Would 16-18 hours a week be too much?

I have been on Celexa since 2019. I first started at only 10 mg for anxiety and panic. I later was upped to 20, and most recently 30. I’m also on a lot of other psych meds and after switching my dose up to 30 I noticed no positive benefits. Switching down from 30 to 20 wasn’t hard at all and honestly I felt a lot better with more energy. I did that for about a week and since I felt fine I went down to 10 2 nights ago. Yesterday my brain felt fuzzy but today I’m getting brain zaps and my head feels extremely fuzzy. I somehow managed to go for a run but that was hard. Overall though I am excited to get off some of these medications because it’s extremely hard for me to focus, I can barely think most of the time and I just feel so flat (I’m also on 20 mg of buspirone, gabapentin as needed along with klonopin, 150 mg of trazadone and 20 mg of latuda). My plan is to first get off Celexa and then try to get off latuda