Am I stingy or just frugal in my (31F) relationship with my bf (37M)?
I feel like my (31F) relationship with my bf (37M) starts to cost me quite some money, mostly due to social and his expectations. As an example, this year we are going to two destination weddings of his friend/colleagues. Nothing is paid for, so we need to pay for flights, hotels plus give some money as a gift. He expects me to get a proper gown, shoes plus nails for each.
I’m happy that he has many friends and wants to include me in all his plans, but in the end I’m spending thousands of euros to go to a place which I would never choose as my holiday destination and using my vacations to go weddings instead of using the time and money to go somewhere where I actually want.
I‘m saving money to be able to buy a property, either together or on my own in case things don’t work out. I’m very mindful of spendings, so I feel a bit upset when I realize that I’ve been postponing purchases for myself, but in the end I drop hundreds of euros every time we are invited somewhere when I was saving this money to get something that I wanted.
How do you navigate this kind of things? Am I being antisocial and stingy?