He told a big lie
And he didn’t have to… it’s left me so unsettled and confused. A guy I’ve been seeing (many red flags and times I should’ve walked away over the years).
More recently, he was supposed to come see me. He didn’t. I called him (while half asleep) the next day and he had a huge sob story about something happening to him. He had me worried for his safety and thinking I would never see him again. But the whole time he kept telling me he loved me and acted as if he was confiding in me.
Turns out, the whole story was a lie. I think to distract from the fact that he was supposed to see me but went to see someone else. I’m left so confused:
- is he trying to get ME to leave him?
- how do I feel about someone making up the kind of lie he told?
- why say he loves me, like why try to keep me around or attached?
It feels abusive and toxic. When I figured out it was a lie, I did confront him through a range of emotions ending in acceptance and withdrawal from the relationship.
However, I’m still left so confused. I’m trying to tell myself that he’s a scary and crazy person for acting like that, so that I can finally detach from him.