I (24F) downloaded a lesbian dating app because I wanted to explore my sexuality. I’ve known for a while that I’m into women, but I haven’t been very open about it, so this was a big step for me.
I matched with a girl (24F, I’ll call her Brittany), and we really clicked. After we started talking, she told me she’s actually in a relationship with a guy (29M, “George”), and that she’s bisexual but has never been with a woman. She said they wanted to explore that side of her, and somehow I ended up agreeing to date both of them.
At first it was okay because I didn’t really see or talk to George much. But the truth is… I’m not attracted to him at all. Not even a little bit. Over time, Brittany asked me directly if I was attracted to both of them, and I told her honestly that I wasn’t. After that, we decided to end things.
The breakup was actually really hard for me because I had developed real feelings for Brittany. I genuinely care about her.
A few days ago, she reached out and asked if I’d be open to dating just her, without including her boyfriend. The problem is… she’s still with him.
I still have feelings for her, and part of me really wants to say yes. But I also feel weird about getting involved when she’s still in a relationship.
So… AITA for wanting to pursue her anyway, even though she has a boyfriend?