u/Extreme_Kawa_636

I know, another dick/erection/sexual function grieving post. Sorry, but this and the bowel disfunction is truly the cruellest part of this injury.. As I'm sure I don't need to preach that to any of you.

I am 16 weeks post injury, T12 "complete" however I have movement and power in my left leg (not enough to load weight onto it but I can move it quite a lot) and I am also getting muscle flickers in my right leg, I also have lots of altered sensation below the waist including my pubic area, testicles, groin and base of my penis but unfortunately not the tip. I can get a natural semi erection, maybe like a 30% erection by just watching porn, if me and my partner start making out or start getting sexual the natural erection can be considerably stronger but definitely not strong enough to have sex, I would need to take sildenafil to make sure the erection is strong enough and that it lasts.

My doctors told me that even though I have sensation and movement below my injury level, I am still considered complete due to the fact I have no bowel and bladder function, I don't know how much truth there is in this as it doesn't align with what a lot of other say about being complete or incomplete but.. That's what I've been told. By their logic if I was able to walk but still had no bowel or bladder function I would still be complete?

Anyway, I'm here wondering if anyone got any return of natural function or sensation to your penis, and how long did it take? I know every injury is different and I'm not here to look for a way of getting my hopes up, I am painfully aware of the reality I'm facing. I just want to hear of personal stories of similar type injuries.

I don't know if I'm imagining it but I think I am feeling a bit more sensation in my penis than I was a couple of months ago. When I wake up in the morning and pull my foreskin back I can almost feel like a sharp sensation down my shaft but its very faint. When I am getting horny with my partner or jerking of to some porn I can feel a kind of warm pulsing sensation, almost like I can feel the blood rushing down there. When I play with it through my trousers I can feel lots of sensation in it as the fabric rubs of my groin/balls/pubic area and sends signals all over the place down there. I also still produce pre-cum.

I am using and playing with my penis as much as I can in the hope some nerves wake up, I try and have sex about once a week atm with my partner but we are very busy with sorting out every other aspect of our lives since the injury.

Share your sexual function story!

Okay so long story short me and me and my partner have been coming to Ibiza the past few years and we honestly have fallen in love with the place. This year however I was in a motorbike accident and am now paraplegic and will most likely be in a chair for the rest of my life. For context I am in an active wheelchair and not a heavy electric one so with the help of my partner I can actually manoeuvre up and down some steps, not stairs but a small amount of steps is doable.

We’ve been talking about the places we can and can’t visit anymore and whilst we have had some recommendations from other wheelchair users who like to travel, no one has talked about Ibiza. We’re in our 30’s and we don’t go over there to go mental every night, last time we went for 10 nights in San Antonio and it was evenly split between chilled nights and light/heavy partying.

So here I am asking, is there anyone here in a wheelchair or know someone who’s been to Ibiza in a wheelchair? How was the experience? Any recommendations for hotels?