23M feeling uncomfortable after guy in his 30s kept asking for intimacy while I’m sick
I’m 23M and recently started seeing a guy in his 30s. We’ve only known each other for about a week, so this is still very new.
Recently I got sick with a pretty bad cold, and I’m almost positive I caught it from him. I’ve been exhausted, congested, and trying to recover, but even after I explained multiple times that I don’t feel well, he still kept asking me for oral/intimacy.
Eventually I got frustrated and told him that if he needed that so badly, he could get it somewhere else. I didn’t mean it literally. I was just annoyed because I felt like my health and comfort weren’t really being considered. and he didn’t even say anything after that which I don’t know if it wasn’t good idea to say that, but at this point he need it that bad then do it we were supposed to go on a date today or tomorrow it looks like I won’t be able to, but I can tell he seemed a little bit upset about that and was questioning me about my sickness when clearly when he met me he had a cold so I just don’t understand why he won’t take a accountability for something like that
What’s throwing me off is that I feel like if someone genuinely cares about you, especially this early on, they’d be more focused on you resting and getting better instead of still pushing sexual stuff while you’re sick.
He’s not a horrible person overall, which is why I’m conflicted, but this situation made me uncomfortable and honestly a little turned off.
Am I overreacting for feeling this way, or is this actually a red flag? I certainly need a second opinion from somebody because I don’t deserve this.