u/Eytol

To begin, I will say that I’m not a big fan of my girlfriend going out to bars with these friends. That being said, I’m not the person to tell her that or to tell her what to do.

A main reason for this is I’m not sure I trust her friends and their character 100%. Her friends from what she tells me are the kind that hook up with guys, have threesomes, one is actively hanging out with a guy behind her boyfriend’s back and stuff of that nature. This makes me question what they may do or situations they might put my girlfriend in.

My feelings would be different if she hung around people that I trust and know do the right thing. If she’d not only want to go out while I’m on duty and have a group of both our friends go.

This all seems to allude to me having trust issues. Which yes, I agree to an extent. Who doesn’t at some level in my opinion. It’s apart of me caring and being protective. Awhile back, she had guys buying her and her friend drinks, playing pool together, and she said he would rub her back. She’s not the most confrontational person so she wouldn’t say anything and it persisted.

My response to this was first off, if you don’t want to buy drinks I’ll pay even if I’m not there. The majority of men aren’t just being nice and would hop on an opportunity if it’s there. Secondly, speak up for yourself, a simple please stop or don’t touch me would make the difference. If it continues go to the bar tender. Yes, I don’t want other guys touching you like that.

I’m unsure if my feelings on this are valid or if I’m being unreasonable.