Should I work out?
I’m 19m and recently started working full-time in agriculture. The work is physically demanding, and I genuinely love it. I also used to love playing guitar and wanted to learn piano too.
About 6 months ago I started going to the gym mainly because I wanted to look better for girls. I made decent progress and I like how I look now, but mentally it’s becoming exhausting. I already had stress-related issues a year ago, and now even thinking about training makes me anxious.
The problem is that when I know I have to work all day and then train afterwards, it ruins my enjoyment of the day because I’m constantly thinking about the workout later. I tried reducing it to 2-3 short workouts a week, but even that feels overwhelming.
I honestly feel stuck between continuing to train mostly to be more attractive to girls or quitting training and focusing on the things I genuinely enjoy and that make me happy, like agriculture and music.
I know this probably sounds dramatic, but online it constantly feels like girls only want muscular guys, so part of me is scared that if I stop training I’ll never be attractive enough or find a relationship.
So I wanted to ask girls honestly:
Would you rather date a guy who spends most of his free time trying to get muscular in the gym, or a guy who plays guitar, enjoys life, and is mentally happier — even if he’s not super muscular?