Last weekend I got blackout drunk with a few friends and I remember waking up the next morning and remembering that a conversation with a girl had gotten a little bit too flirty. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years and we are eachothers best friends. She has sometimes admitted to me that she too becomes flirtatious so that boundary was always a little blurred between us.
The next time I see my girlfriend I tell her that I had been flirtatious and she thanks me for my honesty and says that she would rather that we both didn’t do it in future. However, a few days later a mutual friend of the girl that I had the flirtatious conversation with tells my girlfriend that the girl is now saying that we shared a kiss in a club. Due to being blackout, I do not remember a kiss at all. I remember being with her but I do not remember kissing her. The girl went home with one of my friends. But that’s not the point of this post, the point is my girlfriend, and rightfully so, believes that this is true. I was the one that put myself in the situation where I cannot even confidently say if it were true or not. I am the one that is the problem.
We have now broken up and I do not know what to do anymore. I know people will say that we are young and that there are other people out there, but this one is different. She is my best friend, and I never meant for this to happen. I admit I have a severe problem with alcohol. And it’s my fault that I have not looked for help with regard to that.
I have also spoken to some of my friends who know the girl, and they have said that the girl has lied about getting with people on nights out before, so we both don’t know what true and not true anymore. The people I was with that night also don’t believe it’s true but again, it’s all my fault.
I have spoken to my girlfriend about whether there is a chance that we could rekindle things and she said that only if I can prove that I can change. I’m going to therapy soon and going sober as well. She said that in a month I can start to try and win her love back and prove to her that I have changed.
Do you think we are doing the right thing?
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