u/FML-Flamingo

I think the guy I'm seeing wants to ask me to be his GF, but that label makes me uncomfortable which surprises me

I've been seeing this guy for 2 months now and I really like him. I was also going on a lot of other dates until just recently. I'm at the point where I would like to be exclusive with him, but I don't feel ready for the label of "girlfriend" or for calling him my "boyfriend," which feels really silly. I can't explain why it makes me uncomfortable either.

I was with my ex for 11 years. He was incredibly abusive in a lot of ways, most of which were covert. Saying "boyfriend" when just 9 months ago I was saying "husband" feels terrifying for some reason.

How do I process this? How do I move forward from here? Do I talk to this guy about it? Is this a normal or reasonable thing to feel?

I plan to talk to my therapist, but we don't have a session for another week and I think this guy may ask me to be his girlfriend this weekend so I'm hoping Reddit can help me out here.

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u/FML-Flamingo — 6 days ago