I got cheated on and I don't know how to feel or Blame myself for trusting him or sad for the girl who trusts him more than anything.
I F(25) met this guy M(29)on bumble. Our conversation was going great and things were being so good and in his profile it mentioned he was looking for a life partner, I thought he was actually good for me.
Things were going so good and he mostly mentioned me as his to be wife, I loved it all I was convinced he's that guy too.
But I once found him holding hands with a girl travelling around national park in a vlog his friend uploaded. I asked who she was all he told me was she was his maternal uncles daughter. I trusted him ,met him talked it out on our first date.
Again I found his story being reposted by her but he says she lives near his house and they both brother and sister meets time and again.
But time and again he used to tell me he was going out after getting into relationship but turns out he was with the girl,which I assumed as I was stalking her profile time and again to know who she is but one day I texted her but got blocked because that guy knew her password.
I had no other ways than to trust him.1 month after meeting him for second time and then After third meet , I agreed on having a physical relationship because he was serious for me that's what he told I kept on believing it all. I didn't know I'll get betrayed but I was betrayed the very day when the girl I was having doubt reposted a story "a song he shared to his story ( With you by Chris brown).
I could do nothing but made another account to text her but I got blocked again. He knew some one my past with me having trust issues he blamed me for it. Told me she was no other than his sister.
I irritated him with a lot of calls for nearly two weeks with gaps in between because I couldn't stop overthinking and I couldn't sleep,my mental health was all fucked up .
All I thought was was I wrong or did I really have trust issues or I just got myself used.
It's been weeks since I didn't talk to him as he told me he'll report me to police for harrasing him,which I didn't all I did was to get closure and answer cause no one deserve to be treated like shit.
But today on random day I tried stalking her through Google Chrome incase I can. But I found her CV which she uploaded creating a link ,I got the number of her. I called her and she told me she was his girlfriend. I couldn't speak my hands shivered.
Now they talked and guy calls me and still says what did I tell you and they got into argument so couldn't talk more. So I texted her what he did and how he made me feel.
But this girl is insane and says what happened happened,I couldn't accept it she's so wrong Idc if they are together or not I deserve an apology but instead she told me to look after myself. A women is never there for another women when she's right there telling when I was used and treated wrong by his boyfriend and he cheated on her.
I could never forget the day when he replied when I asked why you used me. The reply was so harsh "Have you looked yourself in the mirror do you think you can be used". I could barely sleep. Every single day I asked myself what I did wrong and kept self sabotaging myself for having and blamed me.
But they both don't care how the other person feels.He told me even if she was his gf why I should be bothered that's so wrong.Wrong is wrong and yet the answer to question still gets unanswered a person who is kind will always get hurt at the end.
Do I feel sad for her or for myself or be happy for myself that I got saved from guy like him I just don't know.
And now I got to know too if a guy makes false promises and gets physical and leaves her it has a rape case scenario but I won't do any of it or take charges on him but for them it's normal and still makes me feel like he was the victim and I was torturing him which I feel very wrong got myself into sth I didn't deserve.
The girl and guy was right there on call and the guy said how I got used? What kind of guy is he and if she's his gf why isn't she unbothered. In case I had to go through this I would never look at that guy with the eyes of love ever.
I think the problem is me here for trusting him and accepting everything but is that really my fault idk what to do .