How do I help my friend?
(sorry if this isn't the right place to ask this, i'm new)
My friend has been struggling with self-harm. We're in highschool and I haven't told any adult yet. I only noticed a few weeks ago. I confronted her about it but she kept saying that she had it under control and she "knew what she was doing". I gave her a list of alternative coping mechanisms I found on the internet but it seems useless because she has new scars every other day.
Even before the self-harm, I've been noticing a change in her behavior for the last two years. She doesn't EVER talk about her feelings and when I would tell her to go to therapy she would get mad at me (rightfully so I think, I always come off headstrong, I understand it's annoying).
She's always been self-deprecating and when she's mad/sad she just shuts down. But she's becoming more and more pessimistic and it's starting to scare me. Like she's lost taste for life. I don't think she notices how many times a day she talks about killing herself (even if it's in the tone of a joke).
I have absolutely no idea how to approach her on this subject because she dimisses every question about herself (even a Are you okay) and says that talking about it makes it worse. Could anyone give me advice please?