u/Fabulous5050

This is going to be a lot of info. My dad, 80, lives in a rural area in NC. I’m the only surviving family member and live 3 hours away. Mom died a few years back and I asked him if he wanted to sell the house and move in with me. His answer was pretty close to a hell no. About 2 years ago he invited a much younger woman to move in with him to help with housework and yard care. Me and my sons took him to lunch and warned him not to let her move in. She had a record that included meth possession and distribution along with identity theft and fraud. In short, not someone likely to want to help you keep your house kept in exchange for rent. Despite multiple conversations of him being able to move elsewhere he continued to push me and my kids off. So we let him be. At some point the woman’s son gets out of the correctional institution and moves in too. He is violent and a heroin addict. I called DSS and requested a home visit as I felt he was being exploited because he bought this lady a car(even though she cannot legally drive) and he also put her sons car on his insurance and registered it in his name because the son had lost his license too. These are not things my dad would do. DSS determined that making bad decisions is not enough cause for me to get guardianship and because he is not disabled and still paying his bills there would be nothing they could do or I. I requested his doctor to do a cognitive assessment and he passed. This was a mini cognitive assessment. The last 8-10 months have spiraled. He’s scared of the son but wouldn’t evict him, so I was able to get him to sign the deed over to me and then I evicted him. Around the same time the mom moved out and had been away long enough that I just told my dad not to let her back in the house The son came back and assaulted my dad in his driveway. My dad called the police but they did not file a report saying they did not see any marks on him. The day after the assault he discovered that his wallet, ID, credit cards, SSN card were gone, keys to his car gone. He has had to report them in the past for theft of his credit cards and unauthorized use of his car, so this is not new. I have just recently learned that he has gone through his savings, somehow, but he won’t tell me what happened. Just that he thought he was going to get something to work and “it just didn’t”. I feel like something criminal has happened to him but I can’t seem to get any advice other than for me to hire a lawyer. I don’t understand how an otherwise healthy adult can’t be allowed to live in his home without being harassed. I also just found out that this woman moved back in a few weeks ago and he has been lying to me about it. There is also some pretty extensive property damage to the house, broken windows, ripped screens, a pit bull that is not house trained. When he signed the house over to me he told me he would pay the property tax, now he just told me he can’t and tax is due in august. He has been living in the house for 20 years.he wants me to sell the house but it needs cleaned up. I went by the courthouse to inquire about court ordered POA and they said I would need an attorney to do that for me. How come criminals can ruin a person’s life and it is now on their family to have to pay to get help? What options does it sound like I have? We are both in location: North Carolina.