AITA for not wanting to refund one of my groomsmen for backing out of the Bach trip for my wedding
One of my groomsmen backed out of the Bach trip for my wedding and now he wants his money back because he is a groomsmen in a different wedding the same time I planned our trip. Everyone agreed on the date for the trip and everyone paid their part months ago. He had a save the date for the other wedding for 2 months but didn’t get asked to be a groomsmen until a few weeks ago. He wants his money back because he doesn’t want to pay for a trip he’s not going on which to a certain point is understandable but on the contrary it puts me in a shitty situation either having to cover his portion or ask the others to pay a little more. My fiancé and I both booked and set up everything for the trip and paid it upfront. My issue is the principle of committing to something and having to back out is his problem and now he wants it to be mine or the rest of the groups problem. He said asked me what I would do in his shoes and I told him I’d take the hit for having to back out of a commitment and the rest of the group agrees with me. Should I send him his money back and take the hit/ask the group to split his portion or not?