u/Fabulous_Ice_2931

I realized I messed up my age

So, we've been dating for a whole year now, our anniversary was just last week on Thursday, I was happy feeling all kinds of emotions and all that. Now I (23M) and My partner (20F) whenever I would ask to hangout with them or play a game with them, they usually say yes or give me a second. I wait for 4-7 hours, I'm really not exaggerating that's exactly how long I would wait. Most of the time they would tell me like "oh I'm gonna be busy for a bit I'll let you know when I'm done." I just say okay and go to talk with my friends or play with them for a bit. But most of the time when me and my partner hangout and we finally get to call and do something their friends suddenly text them and they're attention is not on me anymore. Now I know that no one can control when their friends text them, what I do get upset about is when I finally get to spend time with my partner suddenly she says "oh my friends need to tell me something I'll call you back" and so I get sad yes, but then I just suck it up and say "oh okay, have fun." Deep down I wish I can tell her that it doesn't seem fair at all. I know I can't control anyone to do anything, I include her all the time with my friends. She knows them and I tell her that she can always talk to them too, they are your friends not just mine. Now, I myself really show a lot of love and care for everyone, especially to someone I'm dating. I'm always there for my friends when they need someone to talk to, the same with my partner. But when I need help or I need someone to talk to, they are busy and they get upset because I'm bothering them. So on Saturday I didn't know it was her brother's birthday party that day, she didn't tell me it was that day. She had told me Wednesday that they were going to visit him at work and eat food with him and celebrate his birthday, I didn't hear anything about Saturday. I might've misunderstood her, Saturday came around and it was getting late and so I decided to ask her if we could hangout and call, she texts me and she's drunk and at first I asked her what she was doing, thats when she tells me it was the party, of course i was just confused. Now it's Sunday it's 2am almost 3, I texted her and when I did she starts texting me with very annoyed responses, telling me she's having fun, she's drinking because she can finally have a break and she's says "why can't you have fun." In the end I just went to sleep, in the morning I was kinda hoping for a text..nope nothing so it was around 5pm I asked her "hey love, can we talk for a bit?" Then she tells me "No I'm upset at you" Now this happens sometimes, she was having fun that day and to be honest it kinda felt like if I was ruining her fun. I'll admit yeah I texted her when she was at a party, that's my own fault. So today I didn't get anything from her no texts no nothing, the only thing she told me was "we will talk when I'm ready."